Tuesday, March 31, 2009

Human relations test


Grab a pencil and paper and do take this quiz. My score is 32. What about you? Ready??
  1. When do you feel your best?
    (a) in the morning(b) during the afternoon & early evening(c) late at night
  2. You usually walk
    (a) fairly fast, with long steps(b) fairly fast, with short, quick steps(c) less fast head up, looking the world in the face(d) less fast, head down(e) very slowly
  3. When talking to people you
    (a) stand with your arms folded(b) have your hands clasped(c) have one or both your hands on your hips(d) touch or push the person to whom you are talking(e) play with your ear, touch your chin, or smooth your hair
  4. When relaxing, you sit with
    (a) your knees bent with your legs neatly side by side(b) your legs crossed(c) your legs stretched out or straight(d) one leg curled under you
  5. When something really amuses you, you react with
    (a) a big, appreciative laugh(b) a laugh, but not a loud one(c) a quiet chuckle(d) a sheepish smile
  6. When you go to a party or social gathering you..
    (a) make a loud entrance so everyone notices you(b) make a quiet entrance, looking around for someone you know(c) make the quietest entrance, trying to stay unnoticed
  7. You're working very hard, concentrating hard, and you're interrupted. Do you..
    (a) welcome the break(b) feel extremely irritated(c) vary between these two extremes
  8. Which of the following colors do you like most?
    (a) red or orange(b) black(c) yellow or light blue(d) green(e) dark blue or purple(f) white(g) brown or gray
  9. When you are in bed at night, in those last few moments before going to sleep, you lie
    (a) stretched out on your back(b) stretched out face down on your stomach(c) on your side, slightly curled(d) with your head on one arm(e) with your head under the covers
  10. You often dream that you are
    (a) falling(b) fighting or struggling(c) searching for something or somebody(d) flying or floating(e) you usually have dreamless sleep(f) your dreams are always pleasant

POINTS:1. (a) 2 (b) 4 (c) 6 2. (a) 6 (b) 4 (c) 7 (d) 2 (e) 1 3. (a) 4 (b) 2 (c) 5 (d) 7 (e) 6 4. (a) 4 (b) 6 (c) 2 (d) 1 5. (a) 6 (b) 4 (c) 3 (d) 5 (e) 2 6. (a) 6 (b) 4 (c) 2 7. (a) 6 (b) 2 (c) 4 8. (a) 6 (b) 7 (c) 5 (d) 4 (e) 3 (f) 2 (g) 1 9. (a) 7 (b) 6 (c) 4 (d) 2 (e) 1 10. (a) 4 (b) 2 (c) 3 (d) 5 (e) 6 (f) 1

OVER 60 POINTS:Others see you as someone they should "handle with care" You're seen as vain, self-centered, and who is extremely dominant. Others may admire you, wishing they could be more like you, but don't always trust you, hesitating to become too deeply involved with you.

51 TO 60 POINTS:Others see you as an exciting, highly volatile, rather impulsive personality; a natural leader, who's quick to make decisions, though not always the right ones. They see you as bold and adventuresome, someone who will try anything once; someone who takes chances and enjoys an adventure. They enjoy being in your company because of the excitement you radiate.

41 TO 50 POINTS:Others see you as fresh, lively, charming, amusing, practical, and always interesting; someone who's constantly in the center of attention, but sufficiently well-balanced not to let it go to their head. They also see you as kind, considerate, and understanding; someone who'll always cheer them up and help them out.

31 TO 40 POINTS:Others see you as sensible, cautious, careful & practical. They see you as clever, gifted, or talented, but modest... Not a person who makes friends too quickly or easily, but someone who's extremely loyal to friends you do make and who expect the same loyalty in return. Those who really get to know you realize it takes a lot to shake your trust in your friends, but equally that it takes you a long time to get over it if that trust is ever broken.

21 TO 30 POINTS:Your friends see you as painstaking and fussy. They see you as very cautious, extremely careful, a slow and steady plodder. It'd really surprise them if you ever did something impulsively or on the spur of the moment, expecting you to examine everything carefully from every angle and then, usually decide against it. They think this reaction is caused partly by your careful nature.

UNDER 21 POINTS:People think you are shy, nervous, and indecisive, someone who needs looking after, who always wants someone else to make the decisions & who doesn't want to get involved with anyone or anything. They see you as a worrier who always sees problems that don't exist. Some people think you're boring. Only those who know you well know that you aren't.
(davidpbrown.co.uk)

What really matters in life

What really matters in your life? Love? Money? Knowledge? Experience? Or maybe anything else. I know that we all have different value of what we consider the most important thing in our life. Have you ever wonder what the famous philosophers were the thinking about what matters in life? here's the list. Just to let you know that we all are special individuals that have our own purpose of life. For me personally, love and happiness are what matter in life. That's all about it.

  • Heraclitus (535-475 B.C.): Harmony
  • Democritus (460-370 B.C.): Happiness and balance
  • Sophists (600-400 B.C.): Individual freedom, by any means necessary
  • Socrates (469-399 B.C.): Knowledge
  • Plato (427-347 B.C.): Reason
  • Aristotle (384-322 B.C.): Self realization
  • Epicurus (342-270 B.C.): Pleasure
  • Stoics (500-300 B.C.): Harmony
  • Philo (20-50 B.C.): God; perfect purity
  • St. Agustine (354-430 B.C.): Union with God
  • Thomas Aquinas (1227-1274): Realization of self as God ordainer
  • Meister Eckhart (1260-1327): Union with God; one
  • Christianity (0-1997): God is good
  • Eastern religions (450 B.C. - 1997): God of good and God of Evil (duality)
  • Thomas Hobbes (1588-1679): Relative (no absolute good or evil)
  • Descartes (1596-1650): God is perfect
  • Spinoza (1632-1677): Self preservation and intellectual love of God
  • John Locke (1632-1704): Enlightened self interest
  • Richard Cumberland (1631-1718): Welfare of the group, society
  • Lord Shaftesbury (1671-1713): Welfare of self and group
  • Francis Hutcheson (1694-1746): Greatest good for the greatest number
  • Leibnitz (1646-1716): Innate principles in the human soul
  • Kant (1724-1804): Discover the meaning of right and wrong; good and evil
  • Rousseau (1712-1778): Human will; moral law and duty
  • Fichte (1762-1814): Know what is right and do it because it is right
  • Schopenhauer (1788-1860): Sympathy and pity
  • Mill (1806-1873): Greatest good for the greatest number ("utilitarian")
  • Bentham (1748-1832): Greatest good for the greatest number
  • Spencer (1820-1903): Scientific basis of right and wrong ("absolute right produces immediate pleasure; relative right produces future happiness; the goal is absolute right")
  • Dewey & James (1859-1952/1842-1910): Good serves the ends of the group and the individual and is relative ("food for a sick man may be poison")
  • Gandhi (1869-1948): Nonviolence
  • Martin Luther King (1929-1968): Love

(source from here - image from justbesplendid.tumblr)

Romantic places...

More best romantic getaways from travelandleisure.com. For sure you can refresh you love and flourish it more and more with your loved one=)

Palm Springs

Palm Springs has long attracted Hollywood power couples, from Frank Sinatra and Ava Gardner in the 50’s to Brad and Angelina. The newest draw for A-listers? The eight casitas at the year-old, Moroccan-inspired Colony Palms Hotel with private patios, outdoor bathtubs, and quick access to the Purple Palm restaurant, for a poolside meal of Mediterranean-inspired dishes. There’s more to do in Palm Springs than lounge by the pool: in a single afternoon you can hike through canyons and, after an eight-minute tram ride up Mount San Jacinto, toss snowballs in a fairy-tale alpine forest. Head downtown to browse the Midcentury Modern furniture shops along North Palm Canyon Drive. One of the best is the new Trina Turk Residentia, stocked with vintage pieces and pillows upholstered in Turk’s signature graphic prints.

Granada, Spain

Urban Retreat The ancient Alhambra. The narrow Moorish streets. Both are within walking distance of Palacio de los Patos, a 19th-century property redesigned with sparkling white modern interiors. Book a room in the old palacio, where contemporary touches (mirrored tables and mod-patterned rugs) are mixed with original detailing (elaborate wood moldings and mosaics). Don’t miss a meal at the hotel’s ambitious Senzone restaurant. Granada is full of shrill souvenir shops. For home furnishings, as well as jewelry, tiles, and other crafts, cut to the chase at Bazar Pazouki and El Zoco Nazarí.


Fiji

On the Waterfront You arrive by seaplane at Navutu Stars, a barefoot resort on remote Yaqeta Island, swooping down over shimmering jade-green waters and a palmy white beach. In addition to a beautiful shoreline, great diving, and glamorous thatched bures—some with stunning soaking tubs carved into the smooth white-concrete floor—this South Pacific paradise has an adventurous chef who serves up Asian dishes with Mediterranean flair. Have a picnic on a nearby deserted island with a box lunch of grilled lobster and chilled white wine.

Fudgy Skillet Brownies

And here's what you can do at home to make you feel more comfortable at home. What else can make you feel comfortable than having your own home-made comfort food...a choco brownie. A good recipe from thekitchensinkrecipes.com. Yummy=)
Ingredients:
  • 1 1/4 cups sugar
  • 3 large eggs
  • 1 cup all-purpose flour (spooned and leveled)
  • 1/4 cup Dutch-process cocoa powder (spooned and leveled)
  • 1/2 teaspoon salt
  • 4 tablespoons (1/2 stick) unsalted butter
  • 1/4 cup heavy cream
  • 8 ounces bittersweet chocolate, coarsely chopped

Directions:

  1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees. In a large bowl, whisk together sugar and eggs. In another bowl, whisk together flour, cocoa, and salt.

  2. In a medium ovenproof nonstick skillet, bring butter and cream to a simmer over medium. Add chocolate; reduce to medium-low. Cook, stirring constantly, until chocolate has melted, about 1 minute. Remove from heat, and let cool 5 minutes.

  3. Add chocolate mixture to sugar mixture, whisking until blended (reserve skillet). Fold in flour mixture. Pour batter into skillet.

  4. Bake until a toothpick inserted in center comes out clean, about 40 minutes. Serve from skillet, warm or at room temperature.

home sweet home...



It doesn't matter if you have a big house or a small house. As long as you're happy to live there, you call it your home. Home sweet home. There's no better feeling like being at your own house and feel the peaceful feeling as soon as you walk into your house. But what I think matters the most is where you put your heart. As cliche as it can be, I believe that home is where our heart is. No matter where you're going, you always have some place that remind you of your home. And nothing can replace the feeling of being home.

Home is Where the Heart Is

We are a circle where we roam, near or far it is our home we are home. Any place we come to be just remember you're with me where ever we are we are home. There are times you look so lost, stand with me and be a part of the home in my heart
Our home is of the heart

Speaking about home, I think this house is marvelous. It's a Loft to be precised. Here's another home tour by Livingetc.comIt's said that this loft used to be a factory located in the Islands Brygge area of Copenhagen. But the owners have managed to turn this former factory into a very beautiful place. Home sweet home=) And just Le what people say that if you are at the place you love most, it becomes your true home.

(image source from etsy.com & justbesplendid.tumblr)

Monday, March 30, 2009

What is your color?

The last couple of days I was so into quizzes. This and that quiz, serious and fun quiz, silly quiz, long quiz, tricky quiz..hahaha I guess I've done too many quiz. This quiz that I want to share with you is about the color of your birthday. It's been said that different period of birthday has its own color that can explain the meaning of your personality. You may believe it or you may not. but I just post this quiz just for fun. My color is Maroon and this is what it says about my personality.

You are intelligent, and know what's right. You like to make things go your way, which can sometimes cause trouble by not thinking about other people's feelings. But you are patient when it comes to love... Once you get hold of the right person, it's hard for you to find a better love.
So, what's your birthday color means? Let's check it out.


Pick your birthday from the list below and read what the color says.
December 23rd until January 1st =
Red
January 2nd until January 11th = Orange
January 12th until January 24th = Yellow
January 25th until February 3rd = Pink
February 4th until February 8th = Blue
February 9th until February 18th = Green
February 19th until February 29th = Brown
March 1st until March 10th = Aqua
March 11th until March 20th = Lime
March 21st = Black
March 22nd until March 31st = Purple
April 1st until April 10th = Navy
April 11th until April 20th = Silver
April 21st until April 30th = White
May 1st until May 14th = Blue
May 15th until May 24th = Gold
May 25th until June 3rd = Cream
June 4th until June 13th = Grey
June 14th until June 23rd = Maroon
June 24th = Grey
June 25th until July 4th = Red
July 5th until July 14th = Orange
July 15th until July 25th = Yellow
July 26th until August 4th = Pink
August 5th until August 13th = Blue
August 14th until August 23rd = Green
August 24th until September 2nd = Brown
September 3rd until September 12th = Aqua
September 13th until September 22nd = Lime
September 23rd = Olive
September 24th -October 3rd = Purple
October 4th until October 13th = Navy
October 14th until October 23rd = Silver
October 24th -November 11th = White
November 12th until November 21st = Gold
November22nd until December 1st = Cream
December 2nd until December 11th = Grey
December 12th- December 21st = Maroon
December 22nd = Teal

  • Pink: You are always trying your best in everything, and like to help and care for other people. But you are not easily satisfied. You have negative thoughts, and you look for romantic love like in a fairytale.
  • Yellow: You are sweet and innocent and trusted by many people. You are usually the leader in relationships. You make good decision and make the right choice at the right time. You are always dreaming of a romantic relationship.
  • Maroon: You are intelligent, and know what's right. You like to make things go your way, which can sometimes cause trouble by not thinking about other people's feelings. But you are patient when it comes to love... Once you get hold of the right person, it's hard for you to find a better love.
  • Orange: You are responsible for your own actions, and you know how to treat people. You always have goals to reach, and are competitive. When it comes to friendship, you find it hard to trust someone, but once you find the right friend, you trust them forever.
  • Purple: You are mysterious, never selfish and easily interested in things. Your day can be sad or happy depending on your mood. You are popular amongst your friends but you can act stupid at times, and forget things easily. You seek people that are trustworthy.
  • Lime: You are calm, but easily stressed out. You get jealous easily, and complain over little things.
  • Silver: You are imaginative and shy, but you like trying new things. You like to challenge yourself and you learn new things easily. Your love life is difficult and confusing.
  • Black: You like being challenged and are very brave. But you don't like changes in your life. And once you make a decision, you keep it that way for a long time.
  • Olive: You are warm and light hearted. You seem to flow well with friends and family. You don't like violence and know what's right. You are kind and cheerful, and you don't envy other people easily.
  • Brown: You are active and sporty. It's hard for other people to become close with you, but you fall in love easily. Once you find out you can't get something, you give up and let go easily.
  • Blue: You have low self-esteem, and very picky. You are artistic and like to fall in love, but you love with your mind and not your heart.
  • Navy: You are attractive, and love your life. You have strong feelings towards everything and are very easily distracted. Once you get angry at someone, its hard for you to forgive them.
  • White: You dream and have goals in your life. You get jealous easily and few things make a big impression on you. You are thought highly by others.
  • Aqua: Your feelings change suddenly and easily. You are always lonely, and like traveling. You are truthful, but believe other people too easily. It's hard to find the right love for you, and you get lost in love easily, sometimes getting hurt.
(source: personalityquiz.net - images from justbesplendid)

Walking towards the life you want

Have you been able to live the life you've been dreaming of? Have you feel sometimes you've tried too hard but don't seem to get the things you've wanted? You have always remember that those good things do not come to your life just like that. Those things come towards you because you're walking to get them. You give your best energy and effort to get the things that you've been wanted. Sometimes it's as easy as 1,2,3 and sometimes you have to walk through the rocky road. But in the end the journey will worth the effort if you can get the things you've been dreaming of. Always remember that we are doing our best, we deserve a better life or at least another chance to make it right. Here's the 'ho-to' list on walking towards the life you want.

Step one: Acceptance of present circumstances and reality
You cannot change what you do not acknowledge the pink elephant in the living room that everyone seems to want to ignore is going to squish you sooner or later. Standing in your truth is not about judgment or shame or guilt it is about creating an authentic life of depth verses a shallow life based on illusions and deception of self. Sometimes you have to admit you do not shave your legs in winter, have a tendency to pout when you do not get your own way and always do the opposite of what your Mother tells you to do.

Step two: Accept responsibility for words and actions.
It wasn?t me I didn?t do it may fly for a five year old not so much for a forty year old. If you did own it, learn from it grow and move on.

Step three: Commitment to understanding
Ask the big questions who am I? I am someone who likes fried chicken wings, sloppy movies and cute babies. Where did I come from? My God did I say that out loud I sound just like my Mother! What are my dreams, hopes, fears what is stopping me getting where I want to be?

Step four: Letting go of guilt, shame, pride and ego
Pride is the anchor that keeps you in your ego cut it loose. Guilt is the stick you carry with you to beat yourself up every now and then because you forgot about step number two. Shame on the other hand if the embarrassment of discovering you are human after all.
Step five: Building a foundation
Anything built on a shaky foundation isn?t going to last long. Pick four cornerstones for your base something like love, integrity or honesty, compassion maybe patience. Do an extreme make over of your belief system a spiritual renovation throwing out anything that no longer serves your highest good.


Step six: Finding the tools you need
Remember grasshopper what a carpenter builds with a hammer a teacher builds with words. It is not a good idea to borrow your neighbors? tools now is a time to invest in some new ones of your own. If you go dipping into Oprah?s toolbox chances are you will be building Oprah?s dream not yours. Try some different ones if they do not work try some more eventually you will find one that will do what you want it too!

Step seven: Emotional and Physical healing nurturing the body mind
The only way through it is just that to walk through it. You can bury your head in the sand all you like but that will simply mean someone will come along and kick you in the butt. But there is no need to be afraid of this journey because you now have the tools you need to heal to nurture no need for a quick fix.

Step eight: Inner peace and stillness nurturing the spirit
This comes when you accept who you are, where you are and what you have yet to do. It is that moment when the moment you are in need be nothing more than what it is.

Step nine: Awareness walking awake
Notice now you are wide awake noticing all life has to offer, the endless possibilities, the joy and blessings. No more sleep walking through this journey for you!

Step ten: Walking through life with grace, dignity and gratitude
I will not say the final step because we all tend to take two steps forwards and one step back on occasions. Grace is the inner beauty that shines as a guiding light for those coming behind to follow, dignity is living an authentic life standing in your truth and gratitude is acknowledging the blessings bestowed upon us the abundance in all its forms.

(source from selfgrowth.com - images from justbesplendid)

Party theme

I found this party theme on rocknrollbride.com. Don't you think it's a very refreshing theme? The colors, the decorations, the flowers and the sun. Oh My God..I bet everyone who attends this party will have a very cheerful mood.

Learn something new...

Morning time a cup of hot hello...A plate of crispy wishes...A spoon of sweet smiles & A slice of great success especially for u…Enjoy the day!!!!!!!!

“Good Morning”

Hello Monday. Here we go again, starting a brand new week. Most people hate Monday. Maybe it's because it's the end of weekend and it's kind of a struggle to get up to start the morning while on the weekend you can basically do nothing. Well, this is life people...You cannot live solely in a dream. Just accept the fact that you're living in a real world. Once in a while you can jump into the dream land of course, but try not to stay in there for too long. What you can do is wake up, do something and make your dream into reality. So you will be able to make your dreams come true and live the life you've been dreaming. I want to say I hate Monday also but if I keep telling myself about how I hate Monday, I will be miserable the whole day. Do you feel it too? I often feel that the mood I will have for the rest of the day is decided at the time you wake up in the morning. Life is a choice. If you choose to be happy in the morning, you'll be cheerful for the rest of the day. But if you choose to hate the day, I bet your day will be terrible. Just because you choose it. So, I'm not gonna say I hate Monday. I like Monday. Why? Because it's the chance to start things all over again. New weekly goals, new things to do, more time to make things right if you've done something wrong in the previous week and new time to learn something new. So what are you waiting for, fill your Monda and the rest of the week to learn something new. And the most important thing is to be able to start a new with the a happy face.

10 Ways to Enrich Your Life by Learning Something New (by Ryan Stewart)

  1. Ask. Did you ever stop to consider why children are like little knowledge sponges? They don’t allow pride to prevent them from asking questions. More than anything, asking questions is the number one way to learn more every day. And while I’m guilty of letting pride stand in my way when an opportunity to verbally ask a question presents itself, I often circle the wagons by searching for and reading about my question on the internet. Then I can follow up with someone who is more knowledgeable on the subject and talk intelligently - which is often better than a one-sided lecture on a topic.
  2. Read. Every day. If you have dead time, you have time to read. With the wealth of knowledge available online, there’s never an excuse not to read. If a question comes to mind and you can’t find an answer immediately, write it down for future investigation - this is a great way to build a reading list. If a question was powerful enough to make its way into your thoughts, it’s likely the answer will be powerful enough to stick around too - so it’ll be there when you need it.
  3. Search. Chase down answers to your most basic questions. Want to know what it means for coffee to taste “earthy?” Spend the next several cups of coffee exploring different flavors and aromas. Ask the barista what tastes you should be looking for in your next cup. No question is so small that it doesn’t have an answer worthy of you.
  4. Slow Down. Stop running so fast. If you jump straight from the bed to the shower to the car to the office, you’re moving too fast to uncover the questions that life presents - much less their answers. Want proof? Experiment by riding your bike or walking to work one day next week. I promise you’ll notice things you’ve never seen before.
  5. Listen. I mean really listen - to a lecture, a spouse, a parent, or even the lyrics of a song. Active listening promotes learning every single time we practice it. Great public speakers are great because they listen to the feedback (audible and otherwise) that they get from the audience and they respond to it accordingly. Active listening to music or nature will not only slow you down, it will teach you something new about the sights and sounds we often take for granted.
  6. Meditate / Reflect. It’s like saying “slow waaaay down.” Believe it or not, some things can’t be learned from the internet - or even the rest of the world. Some answers can only come from the inside out. Taking time to be still and pray/meditate/reflect is one of the best gifts you can give yourself - and it will make you a better learner.
  7. Look. Also similar to slowing down, but quite different at the same time. Look at things from different perspectives (and I mean that literally). If you’re accustomed to seeing something close up, look at it from far away. When was the last time you used a microscope or a telescope? Do you remember when you last looked through a pair of binoculars . . . backwards? Look around and find something fun to examine.
  8. Taste. One of the most enjoyable ways to learn new things is by taste. It can be as simple sampling a new type of coffee or espresso. Some of the most fun I’ve ever had has been trying new food with a group of friends. Taste and texture generate long lasting memories. Describing them can be a very challenging exercise.
  9. Touch. One of the most inspirational minds of modern times relied almost 100% on touch to learn about the world in which she lived. Helen Keller knew more about living a fulfilling life than most of us could ever imagine. Follow her lead and spend a few moments a day just noticing the temperature and texture of the things that surround you.
  10. Smell. Memories of smells are long-lasting due to the close proximity between memory centers in the brain and the terminus of olfactory neurons. Spending a few moments smelling new things can result in memories that last a lifetime.

Bonus Tip: Write.Similar to a gratitude journal, a knowledge journal is an attempt to take the ordinary events of a day and extract the most valuable learning experiences from them. Keep a notebook or journal documenting daydreams, thought experiements, and stressful times and you’ll automatically solidify the knowledge you gained from each.

The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind - William James

(source from goodmorningquote & pickthebrain.com - images from justblesplendid and etsy)

Friday, March 27, 2009

feel the LOVE

Make You Feel My Love

When the rain is blowing in your face
And the whole world is on your case
I could offer you a warm embrace
To make you feel my love
When the evening shadows and the stars appear
And there is no one there to dry your tears
I could hold you for a million years
To make you feel my love
I know you haven’t made your mind up yet
But I would never do you wrong
I’ve known it from the moment that we met
No doubt in my mind where you belong
I’d go hungry, I’d go black and blue
I’d go crawling down the avenue
There’s nothing that I wouldn’t do
To make you feel my love
The storms are raging on the rollin’ sea
And on the highway of regret
The winds of change are blowing wild and free
You ain’t seen nothing like me yet
I could make you happy, make your dreams come true
Nothing that I wouldn’t do
Go to the ends of the earth for you
To make you feel my love
(Bob Dylan)

LoVe for the weekend

Wishing you Lots and lots of LOVE on the weekend

It's You
-by Silent T-

I find myself watching sunsets trying to find your face in them.
I find myself reading books I've never read beforetrying to find new words for you.
I try new foods searching for a recipe that is just for you
I listen to the birds singing trying to find a song just for you
When I feel the wind on my skin I feel you touching me
When the sun warms my skin I know it's your breathe warming me
When I walk in the rain I know it's your love showering me
When my feet sinks into the sand I know that I'm falling for you
(poetry from lovingyou.com - images from etsy & vi.sulize.us)

What Man Wants

Ever wonder how to be the "perfect" girlfriend for your man? Have you tried your everything to be the best as you can be to make him proud of being your boyfriend? This topic has just crossed my ind all of a sudden, out of nowhere. And when I was browsing for the perfect article for this posting, I found this one. It's called 9 Ways to Be the Perfect Girlfriend on Menshealth.com. Aren't you curious to find what those ways are? I do=) I would like to know what's men consider of the perfect girlfriend. So, just for fun. I post the points. However, if the guy is truly in love with you, he'll love you just the way you are. Sounds cliche I know, but it's true. You have to be with someone who loves you just the way you are. You..just being you.

9 Ways to Be the Perfect Girlfriend

1. Laugh With Us—and at Us

Men don't measure mates against the Victoria's Secret catalog. In fact, only 12 percent of us say that superficial stuff matters more than a woman's sense of humor, smarts, or sweet demeanor. That trio proves irresistible to more than 75 percent of our readers. But of the three, sense of humor is most important—it serves as our mental matchmaker. "It's a sign of intellectual compatibility," says Billy Goldberg, M.D., coauthor of Why Do Men Fall Asleep after Sex? "You can't just be a laugh track. Men want a woman who is as comfortable relating her own ridiculous anecdote as she is listening to ours." Humor actually serves three roles. First, it defuses awkward situations, says David Borgenicht, coauthor of The Worst-Case Scenario Survival Handbook: Dating and Sex. So the dinner your guy just charred is hilarious, not disgusting. Second, it identifies common ground: "Really? You loved Blades of Glory, too?" And most important, it shows your spine—our high-school yearbook photo or encyclopedic grasp of baseball stats probably deserves to be skewered, after all. So go ahead, take us down a notch. Wield your humor wisely and we'll be hooked for good.

2. Take Your Affection Outside

Ninety-seven percent of Men's Health readers, which is as close to unanimous as it gets, want a woman who's willing to show her love in public. "Men want a woman who's confident enough in her sexuality to make a move, no matter the circumstances," says Neil Chethik, author of VoiceMale. That doesn't mean you should suck face at the Four Seasons. Subtle displays—a close kiss during a walk, a graze of his thigh in the car, even a smoldering look shot across a crowded dinner party—can stoke his fires. His hips will tell you how passionately to pounce: Only half of all PDA-friendly guys want a full-on makeout session in public. If he moves closer, that's your green light to heat things up.
3. Kiss Us When We're Down

Men want a partner, not a caregiver. More than 67 percent of Men's Health guys are begging for an end to sappy, smothering moves like fixing our errant hair or straightening our collars. What's a caring girlfriend to do? "A man wants to be with someone who will defend and support him," says Chethik. "It's easier for him to accept help from you—to admit that he has a weakness—if a specific event or issue is bringing him down." In other words, help us fix our problems, not our character flaws. So bring us soup when we're sick in bed; lift us up when a work project is stomping us down. Help a man feel secure, like you've got his back, and he'll want to spend time with you. Stifle him and he might start looking to escape.

4. Compliment Us—Carefully

We love that you love our abs. But we hope that isn't all you love about us. "A man wants to hear that no matter how he looks, there's something deeper you find sexy about him, whether it's how he tells a story or how he touches you," says Chethik. Our Men's Health guys agree: Only 8 percent say they like to hear about physical qualities, but 66 percent want you to pinpoint an intangible quality, something we uniquely possess. Be sincere and specific: "I love how safe you make me feel" trumps "You're so great" any day. Bonus: You're reinforcing his efforts to care for you.

5. Impress Our Friends

You're smart enough to grant your man the occasional guys' night out, right? Good. Boxing out a man's friends is a relationship deal breaker, according to 83 percent of the men we surveyed. But make the most of that long leash you've granted him. Look at his best available pals as fix-up material for your solo friends. And if he's planning a pub crawl, meet his crew at the bar, buy the first round, then peel off so they can spend time together: "You have a blast with the boys, hon. I'm going to head home and relax." He'll keep you in mind all night long, and later on his buds will gripe less when you're on a date during the NBA playoffs (if it's game two, in an early round)."It's important for her to relate to his friends," says Dr. Goldberg, "not just tolerate them."

6. Let Us Meet Yours

We're jealous. We admit it. And we hate that side of ourselves as much as you do. We're not prudes, mind you. We know you flirt, and 79 percent of us don't mind, provided only words—not phone numbers or caresses—are exchanged. "Men want to be with a girl who radiates, someone who makes people say, 'Wow, she's interesting, engaging, and attractive,' " says Piven. "We want her to be social with other men without being blatantly seductive." So introduce us to your buddies. We'll feel less threatened by the other men in your life if we're friendly with them, too. You might even invite us to tag along for after-work happy hour once in a while. If we're mingling at a bar or a party, you don't need to hang on our every word, but reassure us every now and then by making eye contact across the room.

7. Smooth Our Moods

Men aren't immune to mood swings; we're just more likely to bury them. When we're not acting like ourselves, simply say, "You look wrecked. What's up?" If he starts spilling his soul, resist the urge to coerce him into a dialogue—34 percent of guys only want you to listen. "Men want women to be sensitive but not intrusive, which is a delicate dance," says Eli Finkel, Ph.D., an assistant professor of psychology at Northwestern University. For a guy, simply telling you about his troubles can be enough, without trying to resolve them. If that doesn't work, divert our attention. Helping us forget about that overbearing boss or obnoxious friend is the preferred coping mechanism for 32 percent of Men's Health guys, according to our survey. "Sometimes we need to get our minds off a subject," says Borgenicht. "That could mean going out for a drink, cooking dinner together, or watching a movie." The more attention we need to pay to the diversion, the less brainpower we'll devote to stewing.

8. Reinvent Foreplay

Slow-burning sex isn't better only for you. "Longer foreplay helps men synchronize with their partners, giving them confidence and, as a result, better control over ejaculation," says Seth Prosterman, Ph.D., a certified sex therapist in San Francisco. Perhaps this will shock you, but foreplay is important to us, too. More than 75 percent of our guys say they want foreplay to last 15 minutes or more, which ought to please the 84 percent of women who agree. Here's how to warm him up and clue him in. Start the seduction on a sweet note, with your man on top. Guide his hands, stroking his palm the way you'd like to be touched. Your magic phrase? "Like this." That's all—he'll get the point.

9. Know What Really Turns Him On
New positions are nice. Experimentation with toys or lotions can be fun, or at least interesting. But what turns men on most in bed, according to 39 percent of the guys we surveyed, is your unbridled enthusiasm (followed by confidence, at 35 percent, and creativity, at 17 percent). "It's a turn-on to know we're pleasing you," says Dr. Goldberg. "If the experience is more interactive, it makes all the difference." In fact, your over-the-top passion can help a man feel closer to you emotionally—something more than a third of our guys singled out as the most important part of unforgettable sex.

Real NICE....

I just found this website about home and decorating, car-moebel. It's a Denmark furniture maker. And Oh My God...it was all so beautiful. When I first saw it, it reminds Me of a mixture of modern, chic and country. Here are some of My fave decors. Curious? You might want to take a peek yourself.


Stress Reducers

Few tips for you who are now in a street mood. Just relax, take a deep breath...and read the list. Hope at least one of the points can release you from stress. Do not worry too much..weekend is here.

  1. Get up fifteen minutes earlier in the morning. The inevitable morning mishaps will be less stressful.
  2. Prepare for the morning the evening before. Set the breakfast table. Make lunches. Put out the clothes you plan to wear, etc.
  3. Don't rely on your memory. Write down appointment times, when to pick up the laundry, when library books are due, etc. ("The palest ink is better than the most retentive memory."- Old Chinese Proverb)
  4. Do nothing you have to lie about later.
  5. Make copies of all keys. Bury a house key in a secret spot in the garden. Carry a duplicate car key in your wallet, apart from your key ring.
  6. Practice preventive maintenance. Your car, appliances, home and relationships will be less likely to break down "at the worst possible moment."
  7. Be prepared to wait. A paperback book can make a wait in a post office line almost pleasant.
  8. Procrastination is stressful. Whatever you want to do tomorrow, do today; whatever you want to do today, do it now.
  9. Plan ahead. Don't let the gas tank get below onequarter full, keep a well- stocked "emergency shelf'' of home staples, don't wait until you're down to your last bus token or postage stamp to buy more, etc.
  10. Don't put up with something that doesn't work right. If your alarm clock wallet, shoe laces, windshield wipers-whatever-are a constant aggravation, get them fixed or get new ones.
(source from lungusa.org)

Thursday, March 26, 2009

you are you

Cling to your feeble understanding

Searching the confines of your mind

You find no reason for believing

While you're sinking in the oceans of your prime

So you stand on a mountain and close your eyes

Blind to all of creation you look for a sign

While peace like a river runs into the setting sun

Mercy painting the sky, Nothing to analyze - making the simple wise

Looking through humble eyes

It's beautiful - simply beautiful

Picture window - pull the shadewait for light in the dark where you lay

So you stand on a mountain and close your eyes

Blind to all of creation you look for a sign Oh, oh

So you stand on a mountain and close your eyes

Blind to all of creation you look for a sign Oh, oh

Peace like a river runsPeace like a river runs

(source:everything2.com - images: justbesplendid)

Ice cream

The rain just stopped in here but I don't know why my mind seems to think about ice cream for the last couple of hours. Maybe because this morning I made a chocolate cake with the topping of whipped cream. My family members like it. It was my first time on making chocolate cake. That's kind of weird I guess, considering that I love to bake and I'm so in love with chocolate. So, yesterday I was browsing for the easiest chocolate cake recipe and I found one here. The recipe was so good and yes it is so easy. I will surely stick to this recipe whenever I'm making a chocolate cake. So, when my sister and I were having a small chat while having the chocolate cake, she said that my chocolate would be so nice if we could have it with chocolate melt and vanilla ice cream as the toppings. I was like hmmm that's true. We should have ice cream for this chocolate cake. I believe that's the trigger of why I kept thinking about ice cream until now. In this weather, hot chocolate, hot tea or hot coffee should be the one that I should drink =) So here I am making a posting about ice cream on Thursday afternoon.

Ice cream recipes first appear in 18th century England and America. A recipe for ice cream was published in Mrs. Mary Eales's Receipts in 1718. Before the development of modern refrigeration, ice cream was a luxury item reserved for special occasions. Making ice cream was quite laborious. Ice was cut from lakes and ponds during the winter and stored in large heaps, in holes in the ground, or in wood-frame ice houses, insulated by straw.Ice cream was made by hand in a large bowl placed inside a tub filled with ice and salt. This was called the pot-freezer method.The development of industrial refrigeration by German engineer Carl von Linde during the 1870s eliminated the need to cut and store natural ice and when the continuous-process freezer was perfected in 1926, it allowed commercial mass production of ice cream and the birth of the modern ice cream industry.
The meaning of the term ice cream varies from one country to another. Terms like frozen custard, frozen yogurt, sorbet, gelato and others are used to distinguish different varieties and styles. In some countries, like the USA, the term ice cream applies only to a specific variety, and their governments regulate the commercial use of all these terms based on quantities of ingredients.[1] In others, like Italy and Argentina, one word is used for all the variants. Alternatives made from soy milk, rice milk, and goat milk are available to those who are unable to enjoy traditional ice cream due to lactose intolerance or allergy to dairy protein.

True or False. How far do you know the benefits of ice cream for your health?

  1. Ice cream is a good source of calcium.
  2. In general, less expensive ice cream has less fat.
  3. Federal standards require that anything labeled ice cream must be made with a minimum of 10 percent cream, milk or butter fat.
  4. Ice cream is low in protein.
  5. Usually low-fat ice cream and low-fat ices are lower in calories.
  6. Ice milk is about 6 percent fat and 50 percent air.
  7. Fruit ices are about 200 calories per cup.
  8. Low-fat frozen yogurts may be lower in fat, but they are usually higher in sugar than regular ice cream.
  9. A half-cup serving of fat-free frozen yogurt with artificial sweetener has more than 100 calories.
  10. Just a sugar cone without ice cream has 60 calories, and a chocolate-dipped waffle cone has more than 200 calories.

Answers: 1. True; 2. True; 3. True; 4. False; 5. False; 6. True; 7. True; 8. True; 9. False; 10. True

(sources from wikipedia and dallasnews.com - images from foodgawker.com)

Wednesday, March 25, 2009

Sunshine...

It's raning now and the the day is so cloudy. Sometimes you miss the rain when the sun is too bright. But when the time is like this, raining heavily, you wish to see the sun shine. Maybe it's because you want to get rid of the gloomy mood the the rain brings. Or maybe it's because I am a Gemini that often has two minds about anything going on. I guess it's true what people say about the sign Gemini, one person with two personalities. I am proud to be a Gemini though =) However, what I am trying to say here is that there will always be bright light at the ened of the tunnel. After the rain, you can see the rainbow. Afther the rain, you can see the sun shining out again. After the gloomy mood you have, there will always be something or someone that can brighten you up. Therefore, you can always say that the sun will always shine again. Here I also post a story about finding things that can bring you brighter days.


Plato's Cave

In the book The Republic, Plato tells the story of prisoners of war that were held captive in a cave for such a long period of time, they could not remember their lives before their captivity. These men were forced to face the back of the cave wall for decades, while a fire burned behind them for illumination. The only objects that the prisoners could ever see were the cave wall, their own shadows and the shadows of the beasts guarding them. This was both terrifying and paralyzing for the men.

One day, one of the men found the courage to look back at the fire and the beast guarding them. What he found were ordinary men guarding over them. The guards had cut-outs of monsters and projected the shadows to the back of the cave where the prisoners were held. This was the easiest and most effective way for the guards to control the prisoners.

The knowing prisoner found an opportunity to escape the cave and did so as soon as he could. When the free man stepped out the cave, he could not believe his eyes. The sun, that he now remembered, was much brighter than the cave fire. He smelled the flowers, remembering their scent from his youth.

The free man watched as people went about their daily lives, remembering his life before captivity.The free man was overwhelmed with the joy of remembering his former life, his real life. The free man wanted to free his fellow prisoners as soon as he could and planned his quest. The next day at an opportune time the free man made his way back to the cave. When he found the guards away from their posts, the free man sprang into action. Running to his fellow prisoners and telling them of everything he discovered to be real, both inside and outside the cave. He told his friends of the cut-out monsters that terrified them. About the sun outside the cave that was much brighter than the fire that illuminated the cave.

The free man told his friends about all the wonderful things he had discovered again in his new found freedom.After hearing everything the free man had to say, the prisoners showed disbelief, mockery, and hatred toward the free man. They thought, how could this man know better than they did? How dare the man pretend to know more than they did.The free man left the prisoners in the cave and walked back out into his freedom.

In today's world, we are allowed to walk anywhere we want to inside the cave, its encouraged. The cut-out monsters are projected on every wall, floor and ceiling as well. Our scary shadows come from the same place that lights our cave. TV, Radio, Internet, Newspaper etc.. Once we free ourselves from the Maya (Illusion) we can walk back outside the cave and remember who we truly are, again. The first step for the free man was to recognize the Maya. The second step was to understand who he was not. The third step was to understand who he was, to "Know Thyself."As far as us going back into the cave to save our fellow prisoners...the Illusion is slowly fading away. Many will cling onto, "the good old days." Cling onto the projections of shadows that were on their cave walls. Others will finally leave the cave and find a sun brighter than the cave fire and a SELF greater than they could have ever imagined.

(source: selfgrowth.com - images: designismine, decor8blog)

phtography...

I just found two more pictures from one of my favourites photographer, Tim Walker.