Reasons to love weekend

It's Friday...which means weekend is here with us. I am sure almost everyone loves weekend, right? There are many reason why we love weekend...there are many reasons why we always look forward for weekend. Here are my very own reasons to love weekend.

1. I can be with my husband all through the weekend
2. My baby girl can play with her father all day long
3. Mornings of weekend are always wonderful...so different
4. Weekend is the right time to explore something new with my little family
5. I can always get some inspirations about almost anything on weekend

(image via weheartit)

Coffee cups..

How many cups of coffee do you drink everyday? For sure I always have a cup of coffee every morning. I try my best to only have a cup of coffee everyday, though sometimes I feel like having more than a cup of coffee everyday. We all know that there are benefits of coffee, by this I mean medical benefits.Though there are also some not-so-good effect of having coffee. Below are two infographics about coffee that I found on thrashlab and loveinfographics. 

Motivate..

A little something for you on this beautiful Monday. It's a website you will need if you are looking for something to motivate you. Just click projectmotivate.me. You'll find what you'll need, a quote or maybe an image to motivate you. Whatever it is..have a great Monday. 

(image via favim)

Ways To Tie A Scarf

I am a scarf lover...I have lots and lots of scarfs. I can't resist a good scarf. I have many shapes of it and many colors of it. I couldn't help myself if I see a scarf that I like. It doesn't matter whether it is an expensive or a cheap one. If I like it, I will definitely buy it. I already bought myself one stripes scarf and I was looking at my friend's online shop earlier and saw a really cute one. Oh God, really can't help but to buy it =) But don't worry, I always wear all the scarfs that I bought =) So, here are ways to tie a scarf. This could be useful for other scarf lovers too out there. And if you love scarf as much as I love it, you should check Scarves Dot Net. You'll see many things you can do with scarf. Below is some of the ways to tie a scarf and I also post a video of 25 ways to wear a scarf in 4.5 minutes by wendyslookbook. 

(image via scarves.net - video via youtube) 

What A Marriage Needs...

A life of a married couple is surely full of ups and downs just like any other days. Life can sometimes be exciting but sometimes can also be dull. But that's the beauty of life. We can't always get what we want but those down moments were there with us to make us appreciate our other beautiful moments. I found an article on Real Zest about the things we all need in a marriage. You can believe it or you can leave. The choice is all up to you. Below is a list of what marriage needs besides love =) 

A marriage needs:

Empathy. When I’m ready to take my husband’s head off, that’s when I most need to step back and try to see what part of the conflict (latent or overt) is my own fault. Because in every marital conflict, there is blame to go around. Every one. Empathy requires…

Mutual respect. This seems obvious, but it’s easy to pay lip service to respect without actually living it. Mutual respect means you don’t go to your friends and gripe about all your husband’s faults; you talk to him, calmly and with an open mind. Mutual respect means that you don’t tune out your wife’s requests and call it nagging; you listen and communicate.

Mutual respect requires…

A spirit of self-sacrifice. It’s not sexy, but let’s face it: in any relationship where one or both members are focused on their own wishes rather than the good of the unit, the relationship is going to suffer.

A spirit of self-sacrifice involves…

A willingness to compromise, especially (though not only) when it’s not important. Often, we get hung up on stupid things: Colgate vs. Crest? (Why not both? What difference does it make? You’re using the same amount of toothpaste regardless.) Toilet seat up or down? (Here’s a novel idea: why don’t you BOTH put the lid down when you’re done? Then everyone’s equal—and the bathroom looks better.)

And finally, a marriage needs…

To be the primary relationship. The parent-child relationship is critical, but children need their parents to love each other, and that means the marriage comes first. Friends and hobbies are important for individuals, but the marriage comes first.

And of course, since everyone fails every day, a marriage needs…

A short memory and a bottomless supply of forgiveness. Enough said.

Do or die time in a marriage is in the everyday, in the way that we interact with each other over toothpaste tubes and toilet seats. Of course, my husband isn’t perfect. But then, neither am I. Our marriage flourishes because we choose to love each other anyway.

(article via realzest.com - image via weheartit.com)

Images..

Today I'm just gonna make a posting about some interesting images with informations that might brighten up your Monday =)

(images via buzzfeed.com)

Something Stupid

Do you know the song called "Something Stupid"? It's one of my fave old songs. I love all versions of the duets. Frank & Nancy Sinatra, Robbie Williams & Nicole Kidman, Glee version and the latest duet of the song is singing by Michael Buble featuring Reese Witherspoon. I found all four versions of the duets. I don't which one I like the best. You'll be the judge =) Let's sing along. Have a great weekend. 

(all videos from Youtube)

Home Remedies..

I am having an upset stomach for the last two days. As far as I remember, I didn't eat anything too sour or too spicy but these last two days were horrible. This diarrhea now is making me nauseous. And also making me afraid of having something to eat, so I just drink lots of water and also hot tea. I was browsing about some home remedies and found this simple tips from Wikihow. Hope this can help you too sometimes when you're having the same problem as I am having now. 

How to Make Home Remedies for Diarrhea

Eat the Right Foods

1. Eat just a bit to ease your stomach upset. When you're nauseated, the last thing you want to do is eat. Try eating something light and easy to digest; it can actually help to settle your stomach and make you feel better. Eat some salty crackers, sugar cookies or animal cookies to ease the pain. Plain cookies without too many frills may make your stomach feel better.
2. Use ginger to soothe your stomach. It's been shown to reduce the gases and spasms that accompany diarrhea. Try ginger ale or cookies with ginger in them. Ginger can interfere with blood-thinning medications such as aspirin or warfarin (Coumadin), so don’t use ginger if you are taking blood thinners.
3. Follow the BRATTY diet. If the pain is sticking around for a few days, keep to a diet of bananas, rice, applesauce, toast, tea, and yogurt. These foods help bulk up the intestines and have a slightly constipating effect. The rice and toast should both be wheat--it has a greater dietary fiber content than the white version of each. Neither butter nor jam should be added; these may actually worsen diarrhea. Avoid yogurts that are high in sugar. Excess sucrose can aggravate the situation as well. Look for yogurts with active cultures. They can help produce lactic acid in your intestines, which can kill off the nasty bacteria and get you feeling better, faster

Drink the Right Fluids

1. Drink small sips of tea, juice, and clear broth to help relieve an upset stomach. Do this constantly as your body is losing fluids at an alarming rate. Avoid beverages that are really cold. Lukewarm water or juices will be better for your upset stomach. Carbonated beverages are more likely to hurt your stomach, so stir them to make them less carbonated. Or, better yet, avoid them entirely.
2. Stay hydrated. Consume two quarts (eight cups) of fluids a day or three quarts (12 cups) if you're running a fever. Plain water lacks electrolytes, but it's a good, gentle-on-the-tummy option that can help you replace some of the fluids that you've lost. Other choices include weak tea with a little sugar, sports drinks such as Gatorade, flat soda pop (decaffeinated flavors such as ginger ale are best), and fruit juices other than apple and prune, which have a laxative effect.

(article via wikihow - image via weheartit)

Simplify Your Life

Simple living is just what we need in this hectic world, don't you think? I think if we can simplify things in our life, why make it complicated? I found this steps on how to simplify your life on Myrko Thum. Often we need to just simplify things to make our time become worth while and to enable ourselves to save our energy so we can do other things we need to do. Living a simple life for sure can lead to a simple and relaxing mind. Below is the list. Have a great Monday...

How to Simplify Your Life

The following steps will be a guide to simplify life:

1. Turn Down the Noise

“Hutchison’s Law: Any occurrence requiring undivided attention will be accompanied by a compelling distraction.”

Noise is irrelevant information. It is distraction, even chaos, and in a way the opposite of essence. It certainly does not lead to simplicity. So here is the advice: Turn off the TV, close facebook, stop chatting about nothing. You don’t need that. The need to being constantly entertained and distracted may mean that you are running away from yourself.

Face your reality and ask yourself: What really makes me happy? How can I improve my situation? Then use your own thoughts to create that reality for yourself.

2. Clarify What You Want and Need

“For me the greatest beauty always lies in the greatest clarity.” ~ Gotthold Ephraim Lessing

Clarity helps you to do and stay on what is important to you- and avoid what is not. Clarity creates simplicity. In order to get clear on what you want I suggest doing self-reflection- in writing. To reduce unclarity you can also set goals that express what you really want. A clear goal helps a lot to get to and to stay on the right track. The moment you set a goal you make a decision that this is more important to you.

3. How to Do Less without Losing Anything

“Do Less. Get More Done.” ~ Leo Babauta of Zenhabits

Doing less may seem pretty hard at first. After all, there is all this stuff on your to-do list, right? The only real thing to ever worry about is not how much you’ve managed to do, but have you done your top priorities? That’s all you have to really care about. And to make things simple, start to systematically get rid of the tasks that just don’t fit in with what matters to you. You will be surprised with how little you actually can have a big impact. The key is to know what that little is (see point 2. above) and then to focus your attention there.

So you won’t lose much by doing less. In fact you will gain a lot: more joy, less stress, more recognition and more success in what you do.

4. Say “No” in Order to Say “Yes”

“People say nothing is impossible, but I do nothing every day.” ~ Alan Alexander Milne (Haha!)

You probably need to say “no” more often than you do now. It is just necessary in order to say “yes” to the few things that matter most to you. All time-management in the world will not help you if you just have too much commitments to fulfill. Saying “no” with confidence, possibly with a brief explanation why, will probably get you more respect than saying “yes” and not being able to deliver. And a strong and focussed “yes” is the key to your success in any way.

5. Declutter

“The things you own end up owning you.” ~ Tyler Durden in Fight Club

Decluttering your environment helps to live a more simple life. It creates more space for creativity and makes room for new thoughts. It also helps to get more structure into your thoughts and to avoid being distracted by things that should have gone for good.

6. Invite Silence into Your Life

“Do not speak- unless it improves on silence.” ~ Zen Saying

Have you ever noticed how energizing and refreshing it can be to do absolutely nothing? Learn to spend quality-time with yourself.

“Loneliness is the poverty of self; solitude is richness of self.” said May Sarton. Solitude means to deliberately spend time alone. Use it to do deep self-reflection and to clear your mind of all the impressions you get constantly. That way you create space for yourself to refresh and to renew yourself.

(article via myrkothum.com - image via: etsy)

Destructive Thinking

Destructive thinking often can make us stressful. We tend to be more stressful when we create thoughts that don't even exist. It's as if everything we do or we see is wrong. Have you ever experience that? Instead of having good thoughts and hopeful thoughts, you have this destructive patterns that can eat your thoughts. I found this interesting list about 8 destructive thinking patterns via stevenaitchison.co.uk. I know that we can't continue to have bad thoughts to ourself and also to other people. Having positive thoughts are really important to keep you motivated and also to make your mind clear so that you can think more clearly about your thoughts. 

8 Destructive Thinking Patterns And How To Change Them

1. ‘Life is shit’ Thinking pattern –Everything in life is bad, everybody is not to be trusted and nothing good will ever happen to them e.g. “I won’t get that job, the interviewer didn’t like me, I didn’t particularly like them anyway.”
2. ‘Unsubstantiated conclusive’ Thinking pattern– You tend to make a lot of conclusions without any evidence to back up your conclusions. This can be a really destructive pattern as it can limit you in seeing reality for what it is e.g. “He walks a bit funny, he must be gay.” (I actually heard someone saying this about a colleague last week).
3. ‘Never to me’ Thinking pattern – This is when you think nothing good will ever happen to you. This can be a deep seated way of thinking and it is a deep down inability to believe you are worthy of anything good happening to you e.g. “I’ll never have money, I’ve never had it before so I’ll never have it in the future, might as well carry on with this shitty job, at least it pays the mortgage.”
4. ‘The negative psychic’ Thinking pattern – Presuming you know what people are thinking about you and it’s all bad. e.g. “She thinks I’m an idiot, I’ll try to avoid talking to her.”
5. ‘Should, would, could’ Thinking pattern – This type of person knows what they have to do to change their life, they are capable and they know it and they would do it if only……… e.g. “I know I could go to university and I would, but I’m just to busy with other things right now, I’ll apply next year.”
6. ‘Emotion based’ Thinking pattern – Your emotions control what you are thinking and therefore your vision of what reality is e.g. “I feel incapable of doing that so I must be incapable”.
7. ‘It’s all my fault’ Thinking pattern – You see yourself as being the cause of everything bad that has happened e.g. “It’s my fault he left me for another woman.” You’ll notice this type of person does not take responsibility for the good things that happen.
8. ‘They’re all wrong’ Thinking pattern – You see everyone as incapable of doing anything right and your way is the best way to do it e.g. “He can’t do it right, I’ll stay late tonight and fix it when he’s gone.”

(article via stevenaitchison.co.uk - image via: favim.com)

Mix Style Loft

Rustic, chic and neat surely are my kind of style when it comes to home decor and interior. Brick walls, something white, big window are some of the things that I like. This place below is an example of my fave interior design. I found this place via 1 Kind Design.  It's a loft located in Chelsea. It has mixture of styles but as a whole it's a marvelous interior. You have to see it to believe it =) Have a great Monday. 

(images via onekindesign.com)

Accepting Other People...

I found this useful article on how to accept other people as they are via all women stalk. Some people I know sometimes find it hard to accept other people as they are. I know maybe it's not an easy thing to accept people as they are but I think it's more polite is we can accept other people as they are. We all have different life we're living so we surely can't expect people to be what we expected them to be. After all, it's indifference that can sometimes makes life colorful. 

7 Ways To Be More Accepting Of Others

1. KNOW WHERE THEY COME FROM

Everybody has a story and learning that story is imperative in how to be more accepting of others. Once you know someone’s past, it is easier to understand them and who they are. Only once you can accept someone’s past can you begin to accept them as a whole.

2. PUT YOURSELF IN THEIR SHOES

How can you accept someone if you cannot understand where they are coming from? By putting yourself in someone else’s shoes you can get a better grasp on their opinions, viewpoints, and beliefs. Next time you meet someone who has an opposing viewpoint, hear them out and really try to understand the argument from their position.

3. WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT

We live in a world of almost 7 trillion people. How can you expect everyone to share the same beliefs and viewpoints as you? One of the most important steps in learning how to be more accepting of others is coming to terms with the fact that we are all different. Everyone has their own story and something that makes them unique. Rather than fight this fact, embrace it and become closer to accepting others.

4. THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK

When encountering someone who is different from you, you might be tempted to blurt out whatever comes to mind first. But you should be more hesitant and really think before you speak. You would not want to offend someone for their differences and it will give you a chance to think about how to interact and accept others.

5. LOOK FOR THE POSITIVE

Rather than thinking about all the negatives when learning how to be more accepting of others, think about all of the positives of the encounter. Every time you accept another person for who they are, you are opening up your life to a new friend, a new experience, and a new chance to learn how to accept others.

6. LIVE IN THE NOW

Don’t let your past judgments cloud your ability to accept others in the now. If you had a bad encounter with a certain type of person in the past, it does not mean that you will have bad encounters in the future. Try to take each encounter as a new and individual experience and try to not let your past keep you from enjoying the present and accepting those around you.

7. TRY TO LEARN FROM THEM

Just because someone does not share the same ideas or beliefs as you does not mean that you cannot learn from them. Listen to others' stories, hear their opinions, and try to take in as much from them as possible. It will open your eyes to so much culture and maybe even change your own beliefs.

Sometimes it can be hard to look past differences and accept others when you have so little in common. But accepting those around you will honestly make your life better. Have these steps helped you learn how to accept others? What are some benefits of accepting others around you? How did you learn to accept others?

(article via allwomenstalk.com - image via favim.com)