10 Things To Try Before You're 40

This article below is a list of things to be tried. But the list can only be applied for those are 30 years old and above =) The tile is called "10 Things To Try Before You're 40". If you're 30 years old now, you still have 10 years from now to do the things below. So, here's the list (via allwomenstalk by Katie Blake) I might want to try now number 2 and 7..sound easy and fun.

10 THINGS TO TRY BEFORE YOU’RE 40

 
1. LEARN NOT TO CARE
Okay, so this one sounds a little odd, but the theory is right, so this is one of the things to try before you’re 40. Everyone needs to learn not to care what other people think of you, and instead to reflect on what you think of them. That’s not to say that you shouldn’t be a nice person, just that if you love that bright orange coat, who cares if no-one else does?! And if you want a family holiday somewhere crazy, that’s fine too. Other people’s judgments of your life are useless, but your perceptions of them aren’t.

2. CHANGE YOUR HAIR COLOR
How many hair colors have you rocked during your life? My photo album currently has snaps of me with blonde hair, ginger hair, red hair, brown hair, black hair, pink hair, green hair and blue streaks. Some look crazy. Some were perfect for that night, and never seen again. But if your hair is always the same, try mixing it up. You might love the results!

3. HOST A PROPER DINNER PARTY
Downton Abbey is probably to blame for this one: there has been a huge rise in sales of traditional tea-sets, and it seems most people want more tea parties, too. Buy a gorgeous tea dress, wear pearls, invite the girls round and enjoy chocolate mousse made in fancy cups. It’ll be great fun, and the photographs will have you smiling for years.

4. BE BRAVE
Push yourself outside of your comfort zone. Huge numbers of people admitted to wanting to skinny dip – somewhere warm and private, I hope! – while many others want to eat out in a fancy restaurant on their own. Whatever you’ve been desperate to do, schedule it now. Be brave, and seize the moment!

5. FIND YOUR SIGNATURE STYLE
It seems your signature style will be around forever. White dress and peroxide hair? Marilyn Monroe. Classic retro glamour? Audrey Hepburn. Go shopping and find the style that suits you the best. That doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t take risks – fashion risks are fun, and keep things fresh, but it’ll give you confidence whenever you are dressed like you. If you are stuck for ideas, try letting shopping advisors help you pick out items you’d never have chosen before, or getting your colors read.

6. VISIT YOUR DREAM DESTINATION
If you had one holiday left, where would you go? What culture would you love to experience first hand, what language makes you weak at the knees? Whether it’s a European paradise or further afield, book a holiday to the place you’ve always wanted to go. Even if it takes you a while to save, it’ll be worth it. Japan, China, Rio and Burma are all common fantasy locations, and they are well worth the wait.
 

7. HAVE A CRAZY WEEKEND
For just one weekend, forget everything you normally do. Drop pets and children off with their grandparents, ignore the housework and record your favorite shows… this weekend is going to be wild. Go and see a show in Las Vegas or hit the tarmac on a once-in-a-lifetime road trip – the choice is yours, but make it a weekend you’ll never forget.

(article via allwomenstalk.com - image via favim)

Bruce Lee and Limits

I read the short story below (via warriormindcoach) last night and feel like sharing it all with you. It's about knowing our limitation. Sometimes we need to know our limitations but it's better to know that we have no limits. Because sometimes when we think we can't do certain things, turns out that it's true..we can't do it. But often when we think we can do something we can't do, we can do it. It's all in our mind. Just like the story about Bruce Lee below. So inspiring.

Bruce Lee and Limits 

“Bruce had me up to three miles a day, really at a good pace. We’d run the three miles in twenty-one or twenty-two minutes. Just under eight minutes a mile [Note: when running on his own in 1968, Lee would get his time down to six-and-a half minutes per mile]. So this morning he said to me “We’re going to go five.” I said, “Bruce, I can’t go five. I’m a helluva lot older than you are, and I can’t do five.” He said, “When we get to three, we’ll shift gears and it’s only two more and you’ll do it.” I said “Okay, hell, I’ll go for it.” So we get to three, we go into the fourth mile and I’m okay for three or four minutes, and then I really begin to give out. I’m tired, my heart’s pounding, I can’t go any more and so I say to him, “Bruce if I run any more,” –and we’re still running-”if I run any more I’m liable to have a heart attack and die.” He said, “Then die.” It made me so mad that I went the full five miles. Afterward I went to the shower and then I wanted to talk to him about it. I said, you know, “Why did you say that?” He said, “Because you might as well be dead. Seriously, if you always put limits on what you can do, physical or anything else, it’ll spread over into the rest of your life. It’ll spread into your work, into your morality, into your entire being. There are no limits. There are plateaus, but you must not stay there, you must go beyond them. If it kills you, it kills you. A man must constantly exceed his level.”

(article via warriormindcoach.com- image via weheartit)

Kitchen Cheat Sheet

I am loving the image below. Loving it very much. Those of you who loves cooking and infographics will surely love the image below. I found the image via everest.co.uk.

Take A Break

Monday Monday Monday...It's another new week. Hope you are all doing good on this very first day of a new wee. I know it's not really appropriate to post something about taking a break on the beggining of the week, but I just can't help it. I found the image below and loving it. Who knows maybe some of you need a break from something. Here are 50 things you can do to take a break.

(image source weheartit)

Long Happy Marriage...

Today is Valentine's Day. Any of you celebrating it? Or even have any plan to celebrate Valentine's Day? Well, Happy Valentine's Day to all of you who celebrate the day. I don't really celebrate Valentine's Day, for me expressing love is applicable all along the year =) But it's not wrong to make today a really super special day to express the love you have to your loved one. 

So, I was browsing on the net last night when my husband and my baby daughter fell asleep. I guess I was trying to find a short me-time last night. I was browsing things on Valentine's day, romance and things like that when I came across a very nice and inspiring article with the title of "9 Secrets From a 73-Year Marriage" via RedBookMag. The article listed 9 very very true and inspiring tips on long last marriage. The author and the source is 94 year old Barbara Cooper who also wrote the book Fall in Love for Life. Don't you love it when everytime you wake up and see the one who wake up beside you everyday and just falling in love everyday? I bet all of us want to feel that way. The feeling of always falling in love with the same person again and again can make us wonderfully happy. Below you can see an image of Barbara Cooper and her husband when they got married in 1937. So, wait for nothing more. Here are the tips from her.

 

9 Secrets From a 73-Year Marriage

On making time to make love
"I don't understand couples who say they are too busy or too tired to sleep together. Unless they are building roads all day or running a multi-national corporation, I expect they have just lost sight of priorities. If you wish to stay connected and happy in your marriage, my advice to you is to never be too tired or too busy to feel love for your partner. When your life is nearly over, you will regret it if you look back and recall too many nights when you made excuses instead of making love."

On bickering
"The most important thing for any couple trying to get along is to think before you speak. If you are bickering and find that you are getting angry, take a deep breath and change course, and ask your partner to do the same. Try saying something conciliatory like, 'I don't know why this is making me so upset, but it is, so can you just humor me and help me get over it?' By simply admitting you are losing your cool, you may find that the anger quickly dissipates."

On greeting your partner
"If you want your relationship to survive and to thrive, you will have to train yourself to focus most of your attention on the person you love. When your sweetheart comes into the room, whether it's just from taking care of some chores in the garage or from a long day at work, your job is to put down whatever you're doing, look him in the eye, and verbally express your delight at seeing him again. It's really so little to ask, and delivers so much — to both of you."

On having affairs
"Some people have affairs because they tell themselves that they deserve more attention than they get at home. Or maybe they get annoyed because they feel that all of their needs aren't getting met by their partner. Well, whoever told them that one person could meet their every need? You can actually live quite comfortably without having all of your needs met. Try thinking about it that way; you might be surprised how liberating it is. You are not perfect, and neither is your partner, but you can make a very pleasant life together if you are both serious about providing the love and support that go along with a marriage."

On going from lovers to parents
"It's true that when your babies are small, there isn't much time left over for romantic gestures. But the wonderful thing about romance is that it is the quality, never the quantity, that matters. So when the baby is napping, throw a blanket on the living room floor, slice some peaches or plums or whatever you have in the house, pour a glass of something bubbly, and enjoy a mini picnic. Write love notes to each other and slip them in between the clean diapers. Be creative, and if you want your love to flourish, it certainly will do so."

On overcoming money problems
"The most important ingredient for getting through tough economic times is THE TRUTH — it's so important it should be capitalized and italicized. So this means that if you have any financial secrets you are keeping from your partner, you must put them on the table. Doesn't that sound scary? I am sure it does, but as with so many unpleasant things that only get bigger and stronger in the dark, these secrets have a funny way of shrinking in the light of the truth. And as they get smaller, your stress and worry will fly away. There's never a better time to be honest with your partner and yourself and make a plan for dealing with your debts and your excess spending — together. I promise, you will not regret it."

On tuning in to your partner
"I think the place where good marriages break down is when one or both parties begin to take the other person for granted. And yet it's understandable that this happens. Life is complicated and can be exhausting, so there is always a temptation when you get home to just tune out, because home is one place where you should feel safe enough to let your guard down this way. But there's a difference between relaxing and disengaging, and while relaxing is a healthy way to recharge your psychic and spiritual batteries, disengaging is a drain on you and your relationships. Nothing is more important than that you recognize the difference and stay present for all the people you love."

On bringing up the past
"The most important lesson I can teach you from our happy marriage is that we did not rehash. If something was unpleasant, we got through it, handled the fallout, and did not bring it up again in happy times. So we both knew that once a problem was solved, that was it — we would not have to answer for it again, at least not in its current form. And knowing this, we could give all our attention to fixing the problems that came along, because once they were fixed, we could forget about them, which is a very wonderful feeling."

On controlling your anger
"Have you ever noticed that you can't spell dangerous without anger? I'm no linguist, but I don't think that’s a coincidence. When you're ready to blow, you might say anything hurtful, things you would normally spare the person you love from hearing. Don't say something you'll regret forever. Don't give your partner an excuse to come back to you with his or her own resentments. Instead, find a way to get your anger under control. For myself, I simply run through my mind a short movie of how foolishly I have been acting. You may have better luck singing a silly song, or patting your head while rubbing your tummy, or doing whatever little trick helps bring you outside of yourself long enough to regain control."

(article via redbookmag.com - image via guardian.co.uk)

Two Words

A stumbled upon this web (highexistence.com) reading something on self improvement but didn't manage to finish the article. Why? Because when I look around on the page, I saw this really interesting article title. It's written "The Secrets to Life In Two Words". Don't you think it's interesting? So, my curiosity lead me to open the link and I found the graph below. I did the right thing opening the link =) Looks really interesting to me. Hope it's interesting enough for you too. 

(image via highexistence.com)

PAINS

I just watched a talk show on my locan TV and the host of the talkshow said something about PAINS. He said that PAINS can have such an important impact to our life. But I am not talking about PAINS as in being hurt or being suffered here. PAINS here means something else. It's an abbreviation of words that can somehow give us a reminder about things that literally hurting us. 

P  - Positive

A - Attitude

I  - In

N - Negative

S - Situation

 So, what do you think? I really agree on the abbrevation. There's always something that we can learn even in a bad situation. 

(image via wehartit)

Put The Past Behind

What do you all think about our past when it comes to creating a new relationship? Many people find it hard to let go of their own past relationship or maybe their partner's past relationship. A friend of mine had a problem of letting go of the past of her partner's relationship. She asked me how can she let go of the past, the past is haunting her like crazy. And then I told her not to even think about the past. We live in the present moment, why bother with our partner's past relationship when he himself doesn't care about his own past relationship. I think it's a good thing that when our partner's lips and thought of his past relationship are sealed. I personally think it's better not knowing anything about his past relationship with someone rather than knowing the whole stories that can drive me crazy thinking about it. Take a simple conclusion, now..this very moment..who's beside your partner? You or somebody else? If the answer is you, then you should not worry about anything in the world =)

What do you think? Maybe a piece of advice from the oh-so-famous Dr. Phil can save my friend and maybe can save those of you who are still find it hard to deal with your partner's past.

  
Dealing With Your Partner's Past

Many couples face the problem of dealing with each other's past relationships and activities. How can you resolve your feelings?

Here's what Dr. Phil has to say:

• Look at your own past. Do you really have a right to judge your partner's past?
• Your inability to get beyond your partner's past is your problem. Your partner didn't necessarily do anything to you. It's your decision if you can get beyond the past.
• Realize that your partner was not born the day you started dating him/her. No one has a totally clean slate.
• Accept your partner for who he/she is -- both the good and the bad. Use that acceptance to create a bond that holds your relationship together.
• If you or your partner allow your past to define either one of you, you are living up to a label, not your personal truth.
• If you're being judged, tell your partner: "You can either trust me or not — but get off my back!"
• Don't hang on to bad feelings from a past relationship. They will only infect your current relationship.
• Define a new standard for the relationship. Commit to it together, and make a new plan for your life together.
• Everything you do in a relationship either contributes to it or contaminates it. What is focusing on the past doing?

(article via drphil.com - image via: favim)

Advice From A Tree

Here's a little something for you to start the week of a new month. It's is a little advice a tree can give to us. Nature surely can give us lots of lessons about life and all. 

(image source: weheartit.com)