Monday, November 30, 2009
Someone once told me that changes are good. It's a sign that you are really living and see different things. You don't have to make drastic changes but just a little a change on this and that thing. As for me, I love changes, in a good way of course. It enables me to see life from different perspective. Just take a simple thought about changes, when you don't feel like doing the changes that has begun, you can always get back to the previous things you've done before the changes. BUT, take a good note that those are changes too, even if you're going back to your previous things =) Here's one good article about change. What is a change? Change is a friend. And a friend is always there for you, right?
Change is a Friend
(by Liz Cosline)
We can learn new things or go a different direction. We can change something next week, or next month, or next year, or never. We can also do nothing. We can pretend rather than perform. And if the idea of having to change ourselves makes us uncomfortable, we can remain the same. The choices are always ours to make. The circumstances we are in are not the universe acting upon us and putting us in any situation, but instead it comes from within ourselves. Our thoughts and feeling created our circumstances by our past choices. W e have both the ability and the responsibility to make better choices beginning today. But often this gets clouded because people often do not take a look at what are the dreams, what is the driving force inside, what brings the joys, and how can trust in the process be present.
Everyone has the power to decide the life wanted. The parts of life that fill the spirit and have it grow. Most if not all people will say they have felt there spirit full of energy at times and other times when things are going wrong a draining. Finding the dreams and going after these will fill within even through the obstacles. Change is a friend. If this were not a part of life there were not be the ability to try new things, learn new things, meet new people, travel, and grow. It is exactly what moves people to rise higher and achieve what life is meant to be for each.
Friday, November 27, 2009
Thursday, November 26, 2009
Here's a quick reference from Robert Biswas-Diener, MS, founder of Meridian Life Coaching LLC and co-author of Happiness: Unlocking the Mysteries of Psychological Wealth
If you've done the math, you now realize that about 40% of your happiness is in your hands. Lasting happiness has more to do with how you behave and think, which you ultimately control more than many of life's circumstances.
"Happiness isn't the emotional finish line in the race of life," he says. It's a process and a resource. Biswas-Diener says there's a mountain of data showing that when people are happier, they become healthier and more curious, sociable, helpful, creative, and willing to try new things.
Tuesday, November 24, 2009
A message every adult should read because children are watching you and doing as you do, not as you say.
- When you thought I wasn't looking I saw you hang my first painting on the refrigerator, and I immediately wanted to paint another one.
- When you thought I wasn't looking I saw you feed a stray cat, and I learned that it was good to be kind to animals.
- When you thought I wasn't looking I saw you make my favorite cake for me, and I learned that the little things can be the special things in life.
- When you thought I wasn't looking I heard you say a prayer, and I knew that there is a God I could always talk to, and I learned to trust in Him.
- When you thought I wasn't looking I saw you make a meal and take it to a friend who was sick, and I learned that we all have to help take care of each other.
- When you thought I wasn't looking I saw you take care of our house and everyone in it, and I learned we have to take care of what we are given.
- When you thought I wasn't looking I saw how you handled your responsibilities, even when you didn't feel good, and I learned that I would have to be responsible when I grow up.
- When you thought I wasn't looking I saw tears come from your eyes, and I learned that sometimes things hurt, but it's all right to cry.
- When you thought I wasn't looking I saw that you cared, and I wanted to be everything that I could be.
- When you thought I wasn't looking I learned most of life's lessons that I need to know to be a good and productive person when I grow up.
- When you thought I wasn't looking I looked at you and wanted to say,'Thanks for all the things I saw when you thought I wasn't looking.'
Saturday, November 21, 2009
THE LEGEND OF THE DANDELION
THE Angel of the flowers came down to earth once—long, long ago—and she wandered here and there, in field, and forest, and garden, to find the flower she loved the most. As she hurried on her search, she came upon a gay tulip, all orange and red, standing stiff and proud in a garden, and the Angel said to the tulip: "Where should you like most of all to live?"
"I should like to live on a castle lawn in the velvety grass," said the tulip, "where my colors would show against the gray castle walls. I should like to have the princess touch me, and tell me how beautiful I am."
But the Angel turned away with sad eyes from the proud tulip, and spoke to the rose.
"Where should you like most to stay?" she asked the rose.
"I should like to climb the castle walls," said the rose, "for I am fragile, and delicate, and not able to climb of myself. I need help and shelter."
The Angel of the flowers turned sadly away from  the rose, and hurried on until she came to the violet growing in the forest, and she said to the violet: "Where should you like most of all to live?"
"Here, in the woods, where I am hidden from every one," said the violet. "The brook cools my feet, and the trees keep the warm sun from spoiling my beautiful color." But the Angel turned away from the violet and went on until she came to the sturdy, yellow dandelion growing in the meadow grass.
"And where should you like most of all to live?" asked the Angel of the dandelion.
"Oh," cried the dandelion, "I want to live wherever the happy children may find me when they run by to school, or romp and play in the fields. I want to live by the roadside, and in the meadows, and push up between the stones in the city yards, and make every one glad because of my bright colors."
"You are the flower I love the most," said the Angel of the flowers, as she laid her hand upon the dandelion's curly, yellow head. "You shall blossom everywhere from spring till fall, and be the children's flower."
That is why the dandelion comes so early and pushes her head up everywhere—by hedge, and field, and hut, and wall; and has such a long, sweet life.(story from here - image sources: picture 1, picture 2, picture 3, picture 4, picture 5)
Friday, November 20, 2009
1/2 cup oats
1 cup milk
1 small banana
2 tbsp brown sugar, more if you like it sweeter. You could also use regular white sugar.
1 tbsp butter, optional. I didnt use.
a tiny pinch of salt
1/8th scant tsp allspice or cinnamon or pumpkin spice
- Bring milk to boil, add oats and cook on medium heat for about 4 minutes (or cook the oats according to package instructions). Add sugar to oatmeal if desired.
- Cut the banana into about 1/2 inch thick discs. Mix sugar, butter if using, salt and allspice/cinnamon/pumpkin spice. Place equal amounts of this mixture on top of cut banana discs. Gently pat the sugar mixture down so that it covers most of the banana disc. Using a creme brulee torch on low heat, brulee the sugar mixture just till it melts (see picture above). Take care not to burn the sugar.
- To brulee without a creme brulee torch – Place banana slices topped with brown sugar mixture on a baking sheet. Place in the oven and broil on low just till the sugar melts and becomes golden. Be careful not to burn the sugar.
(source from Veggiebelly)
Wednesday, November 18, 2009
-- Benefits of positive thinking --
1. Directs your focus
Positive thinking helps you focus on the solution rather than waste time and energy on negative emotions. This means you get yourself back on track faster and start thinking about what you can do instead of staying in a disempowering state and repeating the same negative emotions of irritation, regret and anger in your head.
2) Keeps you in control
Having positive thinking prevents you from making clouded judgments, foolish decisions or doing things that you will regret later – for example acting like a jerk or losing control. All of us are prone to reacting like that when in an angry or negative state. Don’t underestimate the impact of just making sure you stay in control and not do stupid things.
3) What you focus on, you attract
The Universe brings to you what you intend and focus on. If you are always negative and focus on the negative things, negativity is what you will experience in your life. If you have a positive mindset, you will attract and experience positive things in your life. As such, thinking positively is not just merely about directing the focus of your thoughts. Rather, it becomes a reality creation exercise. Through practicing positive thinking, you are creating a positive reality for yourself.
4) Expands your awareness and perception
Monday, November 16, 2009
- Smile - Wherever and whenever you can. The one thing in life that we should be infinitely generous in is in giving out our smiles. In addition to putting yourself in a positive state, you will also positively affect the people around you as well.
- Read positive, motivational books or quotes - This is a fast and convenient way to put yourself in a positive state of mind.
- Call a friend - Give an old friend a call and make it a point to talk only about positive things.
- Get out of your usual environment - Go to the park or anywhere that is nice and peaceful. By being in a new or not frequently visited environment, you will not be affected by any negative association that you may have with a certain place, i.e. your office.
- Work on your goal setting or review the goals that you have set.
- Listen to uplifting and positive music - Well selected classical music or movie soundtracks will usually do the trick.
- Read motivational and positive stories - For example, books like Chicken Soup For The Soul. Or just do a search on the internet for motivational stories.
- Exercise - working out can encourage a positive state of mind. It helps to release stress and puts you in a heightened state of awareness which induces positive thinking.
- Creative expression - creative expression through activities such as writing/journaling, drawing, painting, playing musical instruments, dancing, photography and others can encourage positive thinking. Take up lessons or regularly set aside some time for these activities.
- Sing and dance along to your favorite song.
- Enjoy a nice cup of afternoon tea or evening wine while putting on some soothing music in the background.
- Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.
- Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.
- Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.
- Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!
- Loud Sigh: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)
- That's Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a woman can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.
- Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you're welcome. (I want to add in a clause here - This is true, unless she says 'Thanks a lot' - that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say 'you're welcome' . that will bring on a 'whatever').
- Whatever: Is a woman's way of saying F-- YOU!
- Don't worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking 'What's wrong?' For the woman's response refer to # 3.