Dealing With Self-Centered People

Hi everyone, it's me again back in here on a lovely Monday. It's a bit cloudy here but it's been a while since the last time it's raining in here so I guess it would be lovely if I can hear some raindrops falling =) Hope you all had a great weekend. I was just browsing on the net just now and found an interesting article about dealing with self-centered people. Have you ever been in a situation that needed you to deal with some selfish or self-centered people around you? If I were in that exact situation, I would be very patient, well at least I will do my best and try hard to be as patient as I can. The reason is because I don't like to sweat small stuff. I rather just ignoer it than be sensitive about things that I'm dealing with. I believe we all have been in that kind of situation. But I guess we all have different approach on how to deal with the same situation. This article I found was written by Roya R. Rad, MA, PsyD (Self Knowledge Base & Foundation) via Huffington Post. Below is the paragraph showing you about hoe to deal with self-centered people. 

How To Deal With Self-Centered People

What to do:

1. Don't be their door mat, and have clear boundaries with them.  
2. If you have to defend yourself, make it short and to the point since they are not the best listeners, and have a thick wall guarding their self-image. 
3. Don't buy into their arrogance, don't feed their excessive sense of self-importance, stay true to yourself and be sincere. 
4. If you get into a position that you have to assert yourself, don't attack them, but show that you don't agree. 
5. Don't get attached to them. 
6. Have an open mind and be tolerant. 
7. Be patient. 
8. Learn to observe and evaluate their behavior objectively.

At the end, try to not hate self-centered people. Have compassion for them since they usually have had a past that created a wrong type of self-protection mode for them. There is a part of them that they don't like and are trying hard to cover. While many people have had pasts that are not perfect, nor close to it, self-centered people are lacking the skills to address these issues in a productive way. Instead of facing it, they are hiding it. At the end, remember that you can have compassion for someone, but at the same time hold them accountable for their actions and have clear self-boundaries.

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Virtual Break

Weekend is here =) Have you got any ideas what you're going to do on the weekend? My weekend, as always, is full of family time. It's a great opportunity to meet those family memebers you haven't got a chance to meet on the weekdays. And of course, on the weekend I always take a break from blogging and stuff. I think it's a good idea that we need to take a break from something once a while. I found this short article from HealthCentral regarding ways to a happier you. One of those ways is to take a virtual break. I think it can do us good considering that we will have more time to spend by doing other things. So, below is what "Take A Virtual Break" means according to HealthCentral. Have an amazing weekend everyone...

Take A Virtual Break

More than 30 percent of American adults spend at least seven hours a day looking at electronic screens.  It’s worth noting then that a recent study concluded that those who aren’t glued to technology are less stressed and more productive. Designate a time each day--perhaps an hour--when you will go “tech-free” and focus your attention on relaxation and organizing your thoughts.  If an hour seems long, consider the amount of time it takes to clean your home, go for a walk, or cuddle a pet.  

(article by HealthCentral - image source: skinnysticks.tumblr)

DIY Favor Box

I'm feeling a bit crafty lately. Craft is my thing, you can call it a hobby. I feel happier when I've done some successful craft. So, of course this post will be something about craft. This time I'm posting a DIY Tea Stained Favor Boxes that I found on Style Me Pretty. Favor boxes have to be good since most of the time, we give those boxes to someone else. Below is the visual step-by-step tutorial. Don't worry, it's not complicated =)
Hope you like it...

Box Supplies:

• Unfinished wooden boxes
• A cup of black brewed tea
• Sponge brush,
• Scrap paper
• Several tea bags

Label Supplies:

• Chalkboard paper
• Scissors
• Pencil
• Chalk pen
• Tape or adhesive

1. Dip the brush in brewed tea and paint the wood boxes. Use some scrap paper to catch the drips.
2. Be sure to get all the nooks and crannies of the box, even the insides. Let the box dry, then apply additional coats if you want a deeper color.
3. Cut the labels if necessary to fit on top of your box. Use a pencil to sketch out the label. You can do names for table place cards or cute sayings for favors.
4. Use a chalk pen or white marker to trace over your pencil lines.
5  Adhere your finished label to the top of the box with tape, glue or adhesive.
6. Fill the box with your favorite tea for your guests to enjoy!

(image and instruction source: stylemepretty.com)

Maybe...

Maybe...it is such a short word but can be very confusing at times. Maybe can also be regret, hope or thoughts. These are 15 maybes we should consider, a list I found on Amazing Posts. 

15 Maybes You Should Consider

1. Maybe. . .we were supposed to meet the wrong people before meeting the right one so that, when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift.
2. Maybe . . . when the door of happiness closes, another opens; but, often times, we look so long at the closed door that we don’t even see the new one which has been opened for us.
3. Maybe . . . it is true that we don’t know what we have until we lose it, but it is also true that we don’t know what we have been missing until it arrives.
4. Maybe . . . the happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
5. Maybe . . . the brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; after all, you can’t go on successfully in life until you let go of your past mistakes, failures and heartaches.
6. Maybe . . . you should dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go, be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you dream of, and want to do.
7. Maybe . . . there are moments in life when you miss someone — a parent, a spouse, a friend, a child — so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real, so that once they are around you appreciate them more.
8. Maybe . . . the best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you’ve ever had.
9. Maybe . . you should always try to put yourself in others’ shoes. If you feel that something could hurt you, it probably will hurt the other person, too.
10. Maybe . . you should do something nice for someone every single day, even if it is simply to leave them alone.
11. Maybe . . . giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they will love you back. Don’t expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in their heart; but, if it doesn’t, be content that it grew in yours.
12. Maybe . . . happiness waits for all those who cry, all those who hurt, all those who have searched, and all those who have tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of all the people who have touched their lives.
13. Maybe . . . you shouldn’t go for looks; they can deceive; don’t go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile, because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Find the one that makes your heart smile.
14. Maybe . . you should hope for enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, and enough hope to make you happy
15. Maybe . . . you should try to live your life to the fullest because when you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling but when you die, you can be the one who is smiling and everyone around you crying.

(article source: amazingposts.com - image source: realmabovetheclouds.tumblr.com)

Brilliant Quotes

Hello Monday =) Nice to be back here on a new week in November. Time flies so fast, don't you think? So, I am just going to post these brilliant quotes for you. Especially for those who kinda hate Monday. Although I do hope none of you hate Monday because I think when you hate certain days, you will not be able to start the days with a happy feeling, therefore the rest of the days will not be as good as it can be. So, have a great Monday..

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Healthy Habbits

As the years go by and as we're getting older, I think it's important for us to always keep our healthy habbits. Below is an article written by Alison Bryant via All Women Stalk about healthy habits to keep. Enjoy reading =)

 

7 Healthy Habits to Keep for Life …

1. Moderation
Do you ever feel guilty about enjoying chocolate or dessert? Leading a healthy lifestyle doesn´t mean that you have to deprive yourself of anything that´s fun. Moderation is the rule to bear in mind. An occasional glass of wine won´t hurt you – it´s drinking every day or consuming more than a sensible daily amount that causes problem. So as long as you don´t overdo it, it´s okay to enjoy something that´s not so healthy.

2. Exercise
Exercise is one of the best healthy habits for life. You don´t have to join a gym, run for miles or jump up and down at aerobics classes. The important thing is to keep active and keep your body moving. This is especially important for our health when many jobs involve being sedentary all day. Some gentle daily exercise such as walking will do you the world of good. Don´t let your body seize up, and you´ll be likely to stay fit and active for many years.

3. Activities
Work often takes over our lives, and when we get home it can be difficult to summon up the energy to do anything other than make dinner and slump in front of the TV. But all work and no play won´t do you any good at all. Find the time and energy to enjoy some activities that are enjoyable and a break from the eat/sleep/work routine.
4. Socialising
No man – or woman – is an island. We need to spend time with friends and family – being around people we like and love is a great boost to our mental wellbeing. It´s good to get into the habit of spending time socialising; you don´t need to be out every night, but enjoying a healthy social life does allow us to balance work and pleasure.

5. Positive Outlook
When it comes to adopting healthy habits for life, we shouldn´t just consider habits that look after our physical health. Our mental and psychological health is just as important. Sure, we can´t be as sunny as Little Orphan Annie all the time – life can be hard going at times, and nobody´s that cheerful! But wherever possible, it´s really good to maintain a positive outlook – the more that you do so, the easier it is to cope with hassles, and you will find that you are less bothered by things that don´t matter.

6. Sleep
The importance of getting enough sleep cannot be overestimated. Our body uses the sleeping hours to repair itself, and our mind needs to rest. If you´re having trouble sleeping then try to work out what the problem is, and what you can do to solve it.

7. Regular Meals
Do you ever skip breakfast, either because you ´don´t have time´, or because you simply don´t fancy it? Do you snack on fatty, sugary foods instead of eating proper meals? Or do you leave out lunch so that you can lose weight? Missing out on meals won´t give you the energy you need. Eating regularly is one of the healthy habits everyone should adopt, however busy they are.

Adopting healthy habits for life will pay off considerably. Leading a healthy lifestyle isn´t about depriving yourself of everything that´s fun and enjoyable – on the contrary, being and feeling healthy is a huge bonus. It´s about looking after yourself, and you´ll feel all the better for it. Which healthy habits do you really need to adopt?
(article via allwomenstalk.com - images via 500daysofhealthy.tumblr)