Be friends with happy people...

“Fate chooses your relations, you choose your friends.” - Jacques Delille

Read the quote above and tell me what you think. Agree or not? Logically, the quote is true. you can't choose you relatives or relations but friends..oh yeah you can choose who your friends are. You can choose those people who you want to be friends with and those who don't. It's not about being a picky person when it comes to make friends with people, but it's about making friends who can bring the best of yourself. Be friends with people who can give positive effect for you. And when you already a happy person, find ways to be friends with other people so you can share happiness with them. I always believe that happiness is contagious, when you're with happy people, you'll be happy too. But when you're with those people who always bring negative thoughts on everything, your mind will automatically think about the negative things also. Read the article below about the effect that you can get by be friends with happy people.

Happier Friends, Happier You

Happy people tend to be found in the company of other happy people, while unhappy people are likely to spend time with unhappy people. You are probably saying, "Yes, that's right." You may have thought about this relationship before, or you may just now be scanning through a mental list of people you know and finding the correlation. Either way, it is a matter of personal experience that both happy and unhappy people tend to mingle with others having a similar degree of happiness. Why is this true? Are happiness and unhappiness infectious?

Several factors are at work. First, let's say that I am an unhappy and negative person. I depress the emotions of those with whom I come in contact. As a result, happy positive people try to avoid me as much as they can, while unhappy people, plus any previously happy people who are bound to me through family or career, are further depressed by contact with me. I tend to feel uncomfortable around happy people because I'm jealous of their happiness, while I create a misery-loves-company kind of bond with other unhappy people.

If I am a happy person, all this works in reverse. I uplift the emotions of those I come in contact with. As a result, happy positive people love being in my company. Unhappy people, however, either respond to my joyful positivity, thus beginning their journey toward their own happiness, or they find themselves feeling frustrated and jealous, and sever their relationship with me. I become even happier when I am around other happy people, while I tend to feel uncomfortable around unhappy people, and will tend to avoid them to the extent that doing so does not conflict with my commitment toward those people.

People sort themselves into groups of happy people and unhappy people through two different, but complementary mechanisms, influence and affinity. I influence those around me with my emotional state, either happy or unhappy. At the same time, I feel an affinity for others who are like me in some way - in this case by sharing my emotional outlook on life.

While we can observe the effect of clusters of happy and unhappy people in our lives, quantifying this effect is beyond our personal experience. A large-scale long-term research study published in 2008 by James Fowler of UC San Diego and Nicholas Christakis of Harvard Medical School documented the profound effect a happy, or unhappy, person has on their acquaintances. This study showed that you are 15 percent more likely to be happy because you are in contact with someone who is happy; 10 percent if a friend of a friend is happy; and 6 percent if a friend of a friend of a friend is happy. Just think about that - your own happiness has a measurable effect on the happiness of the friends of the friends of your friends. What an amazing power you hold! In addition, the study revealed that while unhappiness is also infectious, an unhappy person doesn't exert the same influence over large groups as a happy person does. I visualize this difference with the example of a candle being brought into a dark cave. The candle illuminates the darkness rather than the darkness snuffing out the candle.

As a happy person, you radiate happiness to the world. While the study only measured the effect to the third level of acquaintance, visualize your light radiating throughout the world, passing from person to person until the whole earth is uplifted by your happiness.
Affirmation: I shine my light of happiness into the darkness of negativity.

(source by Jonathan Lockwood from selfgrowth.com - images from justbesplendid.tumblr)

Politics Explained

Confuse with the politics ideology? I'm sure you know that there are lots of political views and for me it's not easy to understand it. But just now, I found this explanations about different political views. It makes it easier for us to understand in a funny kind of ways...

• FEUDALISM: You have two cows. Your lord takes some of the milk.
• PURE SOCIALISM: You have two cows. The government takes them and puts them in a barn with everyone else's cows. You have to take care of all of the cows. The government gives you as much milk as you need.
• BUREAUCRATIC SOCIALISM: You have two cows. The government takes them and put them in a barn with everyone else's cows. They are cared for by ex-chicken farmers. You have to take care of the chickens the government took from the chicken farmers. The government gives you as much milk and eggs as the regulations say you need.
• FASCISM: You have two cows. The government takes both, hires you to take care of them and sells you the milk.
• PURE COMMUNISM: You have two cows. Your neighbors help you take care of them, and you all share the milk.
• RUSSIAN COMMUNISM: You have two cows. You have to take care of them, but the government takes all the milk.
• CAMBODIAN COMMUNISM: You have two cows. The government takes both of them and shoots you.
• DICTATORSHIP: You have two cows. The government takes both and drafts you.
• PURE DEMOCRACY: You have two cows. Your neighbors decide who gets the milk.
• REPRESENTATIVE DEMOCRACY: You have two cows. Your neighbors pick someone to tell you who gets the milk.
• BUREAUCRACY: You have two cows. At first the government regulates what you can feed them and when you can milk them. Then it pays you not to milk them. Then it takes both, shoots one, milks the other and pours the milk down the drain. Then it requires you to fill out forms accounting for the missing cows.
• PURE ANARCHY: You have two cows. Either you sell the milk at a fair price or your neighbors try to take the cows and kill you.
• LIBERTARIAN/ANARCHO-CAPITALISM: You have two cows. You sell one and buy a bull.
• SURREALISM: You have two giraffes. The government requires you to take harmonica lessons.

(source from sjgames.com)

Small space...

I have a claustrophobia and I am really sure about that. Claustrophobia is one of the most common phobias and it is characterized by panic that is a result of being in enclosed spaces. I have this fear of being in a small and closed space even though the space is safe. The name claustrophobia comes from the Latin word claustrum which means "a bolt, a place shut in" and the Greek word phobos meaning "fear". Sometimes when I'm in an elevator and I have to go up really high, I got panic, especially when I'm there with strangers. In that kind of situation, I always feel that my heart is bumping so fast and I start to get dizzy. All I want to do is get myself out of the elevator and just breath the air outside the elevator. Another example is when I'm inside a very small car, oh God..I always feel like I can't breath as if I'll never got myself out of that car. The other example is when my body got stuck in a dress. I got panic easily when I try a dress with no zip on it, and when I try to take it out, it seems to be stuckin my body. Oh how I hate that feeling. My sister know about how panic I can be about this dress thingy. But everyone else who knows me aware that I have a claustrophobia. I can't imagine if I have to be inside an MRI scanner. Panic attack will come to me for sure. I really hope I can overcome this fear and get rid of this phobia. So here I am searching about what Claustrophobia really is..

Causes of Claustrophobia

Claustrophobia can develop from either a traumatic childhood experience (such as being trapped in a small space during a childhood game), or from another unpleasant experience later on in life involving confined spaces (such as being stuck in an elevator). When an individual experiences such an event, it can often trigger a panic attack; this response then becomes programmed in the brain, establishing an association between being in a tight space and feeling anxious or out-of-control. As a result, the person often develops claustrophobia.

Claustrophobia symptoms can include:

• sweating
• accelerated heartbeat
• nausea
• fainting
• light-headedness
• shaking
• hyperventilation
• a fear of actual imminent physical harm

Some common situations that can cause anxiety in claustrophobia sufferers include:

• Being inside a room: the individual will look for an exit, for example, at a movie theatre
• Being inside a car: the individual will avoid driving on the highway or major roads where there is heavy traffic
• Being inside a building: the individual will avoid taking elevators
• Being at a party: the individual will stand near a door
• Being on an airplane
• While undergoing an MRI or CAT scan (also referred to as MRI claustrophobia and CAT scan claustrophobia, respectively)
• In extreme cases, the very sight of a closed door can lead to feelings of anxiety in the individual. Claustrophobia can have crippling social and psychological effects since the patient will often avoid situations in which she thinks she will have an anxiety attack, leading to isolation and depression.

Theories of Claustrophobia

Claustrophobia is a fairly mysterious disorder. It doesn't appear in the annals of medicine until the 1870s. A French physician working in Paris wrote of two people who reported feeling anxious when they were inside their apartments with the doors closed. These cases emerged when Paris was rapidly urbanizing -- more people were crowding into the city, and life was getting cramped. Shortly after these cases were documented, a similar case developed in a man who lived in New York just as that city was becoming more urbanized. Some theorists postulate that claustrophobia resulted from the rise of the modern city. The theory makes sense; after all, was there such a thing as fear of flying (aviatophobia) before airplanes existed? So there could be many more claustrophobes in the world than current estimates predict, given that half of the global population lives in cities.

Claustrophobia Treatment

There is no cure for claustrophobia, however, there are several forms of treatment that can help an individual control her condition. Treatment for claustrophobia can include behavior therapy, exposure therapy, drugs or a combination of several treatments.

Behavior therapy includes identifying trigger points and recognizing that one's reactions to these triggers are learned instead of natural; through visualization and positive thinking, the individual learns to disassociate feelings of danger with the confined space.

Neuro-Linguistic Programming is a type of behavior therapy that deconstructs the individual's preconceived view of reality, reducing the anxiety provoked by a specific situation or setting. Flooding is a type of exposure treatment in which the individual is exposed to a situation until the anxiety attack passes; a less extreme form of exposure treatment is counter-conditioning. Counter-conditioning includes behavior therapy, as the individual is taught visualization and relaxation techniques before being slowly reintroduced to the trigger situation.

Medications prescribed to help treat claustrophobia include anti-depressants and beta-blockers, which help to relieve the heart pounding often associated with anxiety attacks. Alternative claustrophobia treatments include regression hypnotherapy, in which hypnotherapy is used to remember the traumatic event that led to the individual's claustrophobia. The patient is taught to see the event with ‘adult' eyes, which helps to decrease the sense of panic that it has instilled into their minds.

(sources from epigee.org and health.howstuffworks.com-image from health-issues-tips.com and flickr rhino neal's photostream)

The movie..

Finally I was able to get the ticket and watched Transformers 2. Last week all the cinemas were full by those who wanted to see Transformers 2. I'm not a big fan of the movie but since I watched the first one, I guess I'll have to see the sequel and see it for myself whether it's a good movie or not. I'm not really into robot movies or things like that but when I watched this movie last night, I didn't realize that the length of the movie was about 2 hours. I guess I can say that it's an entertaining movie considering that I can sat there nicely on the cinema for 2 hours watching robots, cars chasing and killing one another. And for sure I can say that Megan Fox is really sexy. Have you watched the movie?

smells good

Looks delicious? Sorry but you can't eat it...Not because I don't want you to have it but because those are soaps. Here are the newest soap crafts from soapylove.blogspot.com. The lady who made this is very creative. I can see that this kind of soap will be a very good gift idea to give to someone, don't you think? But of course you must write a "don't eat" note..ha ha...I'm sure everyone will get confused whether or not it's edible...

Imagination

Live out of your imagination, not your history. Stephen Covey

Many people say that your mind creates your life. Do you have a mind full of imagination? Do you imagine often? There are times where I have imaginations about how I want my life to be and how I want to live my life. Imagination is good in a way that you don't exaggerate your imagination. Imagination can do you good as long as you have the idea on how to grab and get your imagination. For me, an imagination is somewhat an expectation about your future. It's like having a book of your future and by that you keep your imagination in the book and promise to yourself that you'll live in your world of imagination someday in your life.

Imagination: The Powerful Tool in Creating Greatness in Your Life

Were you aware that you have the power inside you to create positivity and prosperity? You do. When you use your imagination to view challenges as opportunities, you begin to re-pattern your thoughts and your mindset into a more powerful one that steers the positive flow of Universal energy into your heart and into your soul being.

Challenge yourself to rise to the occasion and remove any and all negative and destructive thought patterns from your mind. When you do, you start to see the clarity that shapes your future into a positive and brighter one. But it doesn’t end there because...as a matter of fact - you discover how to manifest and claim your rightful destiny. Your imagination is a powerful tool in redesigning your life; and the more you practice positive meditation, the more you begin to discover your soul being and the value of its instrumental worth in your life. Your meditation practice opens greater channels of awareness, which results in a shift in your reality.

Create greatness by focusing on the lighter side of life, and put your imagination to work for you to embrace and experience life as if it were your very own masterpiece...viewing each new day with an attitude of gratitude. It's nothing short of a miracle when you breathe in each moment with a renewed sense of vigor, and release every shred of negativity as you breathe outward - it's like experiencing the world with a brand new pair of eyes...except now, you begin to develop and employ ideas and dreams through your soul being; which is the driving influence of your creative imagination.

Your imagination is indeed a powerful tool in creating greatness in your life...isn't it time you began using it for your higher good? Until we speak again, I am

I believe in the imagination. What I cannot see is infinitely more important than what I can see. -Duane Michals-
(source by Joan Marie Whelan from selfgrowth.com-images via justbesplendid.tumblr)

Panda..

Look how cute panda can be. No wonders the movie Kung Fu Panda uses Panda as its main character. Because for sure children will love it.

Here some facts about Panda:

• Pandas live in and around mountainous slopes and exist on a diet largely comprised of bamboo shoots. They eat most of the day to consume the food they need for survival
• The Giant Panda is white and black. An adult can grow to 3 1/2 to five feet and weigh up to 350 pounds.

• The giant panda is listed as endangered in the World Conservation Union's (IUCN's) Red List of Threatened Animals. It is one of the most critically endangered species in the world. There are about 1,000 left in the wild.
• Adult giant pandas are generally solitary, but they do communicate periodically through scent marks, calls, and occasional meetings.
• Offspring stay with their mothers from one and a half to three years.

(sources from china.org.cn and chinaunique.com - images from here)

So long Michael Jackson...

Michael Jackson, the 'King of Pop,' dies at age 50. hat's the news I heard on all over the newspaper and TV this morning. As one source stated that Michael Jackson, the sensationally gifted child star who rose to become the "King of Pop" and the biggest celebrity in the world only to fall from his throne in a freakish series of scandals, died Thursday. He was 50. Click here for the complete news. I was a bit shocked knowing about the news.

I used to be one of his fans. You know, as a kid, we all have one idol, right? And my idol was not Madonna but Michael Jackson, especially when the "Black and White" song was out. I still remember the music video in which McCaulay Culkin was also in the video. It really was Michael Jackson's era. Now I am a huge fan of his sister, Janet Jackson. Well, I guess God has His own plan. No matter what Michael Jackson has done, what matter is our prayer for him. So long Michael.

(images from solarnavigator.net)

Summer..

My Polyvore set for Summer Time...bright and fun! Also with the make up..looking natural is good enough for summer time..not too much make up, just a little bit of make up touch here and there, you'll be ready to have fun on your summer...

(summer time by boya arsila)

(beauty by boya arsila)

Romance is in the air..

FOUND! Another great photographer, Chris Crayme. Chris Crayme is a London-born photographer who recently launched his his new book called Romance. He said that romance was the perfect vehicle to make pictures which can covey a number of emotions. I really agree with the statement. Look at the photos he has made...full of LoVe, FuN and JoY...Love it..

For once in my life live

This is a song by Tony Bennett and Stevie Wonder. I start my say at the office this morning, and I turn on my computer, put a shuffle mode on my mp3 player and this was the first song that the player played. It's been a while since I last heard this song. And now I just realized that the opening song of the day can really make your day.This song is so soothing and gives me a relaxing mood to start the day. The duet of Tony Bennett and Stevie Wonder is so amazing and the lyrics of the song is oh-so wonderful. Hope you can sing along too=)

For once in my life I have someone who needs me

Someone I've needed so long

For once, unafraid, I can go where life leads me

Somehow I know I'll be strong
For once I can touch what my heart used to dream of

Long before I knew

Oooh Someone warm like you

Would make my dream come true

For once in my life I won't let sorrow hurt me

Not like it hurt me before

For once, I have something I know won't desert me

I'm not alone anymore
For once, I can say, this is mine, you can't take it

As long as I know I have love, I can make it

For once in my life, I have someone who needs me

Person parking

Who says a parking spot is only available for car? Look at this parking space. It's called a person parking space. Usually in a summer time like this, people will need some place where they can have a short rest from walking here and their holiday time. A very innovative idea, don't you think?

(source from here)

wonderland...

I love all the works created by Tim Burton. And I love to see Johnny Depp's acting, for me he can be anyone in different kinds of movie. Funny movie, serious movie, cartoon, dark movie and other movies. Tim Burton and Johnny Depp are like this dynamic duo. They always come in pair. And of course they can make a really good quality movie. Tim Burton's story combined with Johnny Depp's amazing acting can be this wonderful package that you can't be missed out. I really adore both men.

Tim Burton himself is a really unique person who can really stands out among the crowd. He's an American film director, producer, writer and artist. His famous movies include Edward Scissorhand, The Nightmare Before Christmas, Batman, Sleepy Hollow, Planet of the Apes, Sweeney Todd: The Demon Barber of Fleet Street, Corpse Bride and Charlie and the Chocolate Factory. Here you can see that most of his movies were played by Johnny Depp and Helena Bonham Carter.

I've watched all of his movies. My favorites are Sweeney Todd: The Demon Barber of Fleet Street, Corpse Bride and Charlie and the Chocolate Factory. And this morning, I just found out that he will have an upcoming movie of Alice in Wonderland. Oh my God...I really can't wait until the movie comes. Trust me...the movie will be an amazing one. O and one more thing..of course..it will be played by Johnny Depp and Helena Bonham Carter.

(images via flickr and cinematical.com)

You are the BEAUTY...

A good friend of mine send me an e-mail this morning about the beauty of a woman. Now I'm passing it along for all the beautiful women out there. Always remember that you are beautiful, inside and outside. Learn to appreciate yourself so that other people will appreciate you. As beautiful woman, you must be able to bring the best of yourself and let your inner light glow and shine. Glow as bright as you can be so you will be able to share your lights to other women around you. Let them know that you will always give a hand to reach them out, a shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen, a heart to feel and a love to be shared. So, this one is for you...

YOU ARE THE BEAUTY..... BEAUTY IS YOU........

For attractive lips, speak words of kindness.

For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.

For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.

For beautiful hair, let a child run his or her fingers through it once a day.

For poise, walk with the knowledge you'll never walk alone.

People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived,reclaimed, and redeemed; Never throw out anybody.

Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, you'll find one at the end of your arm.

As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands:one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.

The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that shecarries, or the way she combs her hair.

The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes because that is the doorwayto her heart, the place where love resides.

The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole, but true beauty in a woman isreflected in her soul.

It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows,and the beauty of a woman, with passing years, only grows!

(images via justbesplendid.tumblr)

Colors of the room

Bright and bold colors to brighten up your mood when you're at home. I know for sure that one day if I have my own house, I will have at least one room that I will decorate with colorful and bright colors. While also having at least one room that I decorate with soft and calm colors. A colorful living room or TV/Media room would be nice and the softer one will be appropriate for reading room. That's how I imagine the interior design of my house. And how about the kitchen? For sure it will be black and white. Simple and classic colors for kitchen.

(images via tumblr)

Optimist or Pessimist?

Last time I had a small talk with someone about people who often bring negative thoughts in their life. Not negative acts in a sense that they're doing something bad but more in a way that the person always have a pessimistic thought about the things we want to do or we have done. I can relate that more into their behaviour and their pessimistic way of viewing and living their life. I was not gossiping about the person who often bring pessimistic influence but I was just trying to figure out the reason why such a person can have that negative thought about almost everything. It really is an opposite side of me.

I always see something in a positive way and try as hard as I can to always be on the optimistic side of life. I guess it's important that you always be able to be an optimist in everything that you do, because in that way, you will be able to encourage yourself to do things better. And you will also have faith that you can do anything that you wish to do. Don't you think it's good? I do. I believe that optimistic and pessimistic are really contagious. I suggest that we should be surrounded with those who have optimistic thought in their mind, while on the other hand we must be able to help our 'pessimistic' friends and drag them out of their negative thoughts so they will also have courage and belief that they can do it.

I have been giving some thought lately to optimism and pessimism. Basically, these are attitudes. Attitudes that shape and formulate our entire existence. I mean, have you ever met a happy pessimist? Of course not.

In short, our optimism or pessimism is this:

- The way we interpret the past

- The way we experience and view the present
- The way we imagine the future

Have you given much thought about how your attitude, whether you are an optimist or a pessimist, affects you business, organization or school? Have you thought about how it affects you personally? And what about the team you are a part of?

What is optimism? It is a belief that things in our past were good for us, even if that means they were hard and taught us lessons. It is also the belief that things will be better in the future. Here are some contrasts between optimism and pessimism and how they affect us:

• Optimism breathes life into you each day
• Pessimism drains you

• Optimism helps you to take needed risks
• Pessimism plays it safe and never accomplishes much

• Optimism improves those around you
• Pessimism drags them down

• Optimism inspires people to great heights
• Pessimism deflates people to new lows

There is only one way that optimism and pessimism are the same and that is that they are both self-fulfilling. If you are an optimist, you will generally find that good things happen to you. And if you are a pessimist, you will find yourself in the not-so-good situations more often than not. So can a person just become an optimist? Yes! We can choose to look at the world any way we want to. We can choose to look at the world and think the worst, or we can tell ourselves the good things about each situation. As you find yourself looking at your enterprise, begin to view it through the eyes of an optimist, and you will reap the rewards listed above, and so will the people around you.

There are tremendous benefits to being an optimist, as stated above. But there are some pessimists out there who will say, “But that isn’t realistic.” I say “Who cares?” If things go awry, at least I have spent my time beforehand enjoying life and not worrying about it. And, being an optimist, I would view the “negative” situation as an opportunity to grow and learn. So I can even look forward to my failures because they will be stepping stones, and learning tools to be applied to my future success. Have you ever met a successful pessimist? Become an optimist and see your world change before your eyes!

(source by Chris Widener from selfgrowth.com - images via justbesplendid.tumblr)

Time Gets Better With Age - 2nd part...

Last time I posted about "Time Gets Better With Age " . Click here to view the post. And this one is the continuing age..what happens when older people view love? Here are what they said...

• I've learned that you can tell a lot about a man by the way he handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.Age 51
• I've learned that keeping a vegetable garden is worth a medicine cabinet full of pills.Age 52
• I've learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you miss them terribly after they die.Age 53
• I've learned that making a living is not the same thing as making a life.Age 58
• I've learned that if you want to do something positive for your children, work to improve your marriage.Age 61
• I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.Age 62
• I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catchers mitt on both hands. You need to be able to throw something back.Age 64
• I've learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you. But if you focus on your family, the needs of others, your work, meeting new people, and doing the very best you can, happiness will find you.Age 65
• I've learned that whenever I decide something with kindness, I usually make the right decision.Age 66
• I've learned that everyone can use a prayer.Age 72
• I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one.Age 82
• I've learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love that human touch-holding hands, a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.Age 90
• I've learned that I still have a lot to learn.Age 92

(source from amolife.com-images via justbesplendid.tumblr)

Picture perfect..

It's been a while since I last check out Perfect Bound, an art and design blog. I always love to see pictures they've captured. Each picture has its own theme and what I like the most is the way the picture is taken, which is from above it. Just like a view from the top. Here are some of the newest pictures.