Tuesday, October 12, 2010


What do you think about perfection? Is there really someone out there full of perfection? I am not sure about it. I do believe that each one of us has our own level of perfection. I'm not saying that we can't have something that has a full perfection or be someone who's a perfectionist. I just think that if we always try to be someone who is a 100% perfectionist, we can never truly appreciate of what we have now. But that does not mean that we should stop trying. Trying is always a good effort of reaching into perfection. Just remember to know when we already reach our limit=) But then again, one thing very imporant to be remembered... nothing is impossible.

I found this article about perfection on SELF.COM. It was written by

Are you a perfectionist?

How to be happy withou

t being perfect.

1. Retrain your brain. Pay close attention to any thoughts that contain words such as must, should, always and have to; these are signposts on the road to perfectionist thinking. Put each thought to the test. Is it really true? Is there another way to look at the situation?

2. Nip perfectionist thoughts at the root. When you're stressing out about a problem, take a few moments to find its origin. Let's say you're tense because your sister is coming to town. Why are you so worried about impressing your sister? Maybe because you've always felt that she thinks she's better than you. There is the root of your perfectionism. Now challenge the root thought. Often you'll find it's not actually true.

3. Say "Thank you." Perfectionists often train their brain on the negative. You can counteract this tendency by practicing a ritual called news and goods. Each evening, take a few moments to think about what new or good things happened during the day. This habit focuses your attention on what you do have and did do rather than what you don't have and didn't do.

4. Set realistic goals. This is especially important for body perfectionists, who strive for infinite self-control and discipline. Try the 80/20 eating plan: If 80 percent of what you eat is nutritious, you can afford to be slightly less careful about the other 20 percent. The same is true in other areas of your life. Suss out which tasks require intense effort and which let you coast a little.

5. Practice self-forgiveness. When you're being particularly hard on yourself, imagine what you would do if a friend called and told you that she made the same mistake you made. Then allow yourself the same respect. Think about who you're talking to: someone you care for deeply, someone who's trying her best. Stop, breathe, reflect and choose to be as gentle with yourself as you would be with your friend.

6. Prioritize your to do list. Draw clear lines between what you have to do and what you want to do. Some are have-to jobs, others are want-to tasks. Once you've split your to do list in two, take a closer look at the want tos. Are these tasks truly important? Will anybody besides you notice if they aren't done?

No one is perfect... that's why pencils have erasers. ~Author Unknown

Certain flaws are necessary for the whole. It would seem strange if old friends lacked certain quirks. ~Goethe

(article source: self.com - image sources: dweebist.com, weheartit.com, weheartit.com)


emeralda said...

hello boya,

it's been quite a long time no see yaa.
just to let you know, that your blog has helped me much during my low-low-down phase.;) the scar will always remain seen and felt.clearly.it's never easy to forgive our own self. the hardest thing i might have still learn in this life.

thank you boya,
may you have a contentful and wonderful life with people you love.

salam buat neng annys and mesza yaa ;)


boya arsila said...

Elda Dearest...

So nice to hear back from you=) I think we all agree that those low down moments will eventually become those moments that'll make you grow stronger =) Then again, life is a continuous learning process..the lessons go on and on and on...

Same wish goes to you too Elda. May you have a blessed and splendid life...