Friday, February 18, 2011

Wind of Change..

What comes to your mind when you hear the word 'CHANGE'? Do you think of something bad or something good? Do you see change more into the right direction or the wrong direction? I know that most of us are afraid of change. Sometimes we are afraid of change because it can drag us out of our comfort zone. This makes sense for me considering that change could mean a better change or a worse change. For those who love to seek for new challenge, change is the thing they always want. For those who are afraid getting out from their comfort zone, change is the last thing they expect to come in their life. But for those who are really flexible, change is normal. Those people can stretch their flexibility to adapt to the new change. And when the change is not as they expected, they will go back and do the normal things they always do. So, which one are you? I can say that it will be the best to become the flexible one. This means that you don't always wait for change to come, you can do your normal things everyday, but when change is in front of you, you are always ready and not afraid to try something new. Because some things are there to be changed and other things are there to stay the same. Below is a really inspiring writing I found on oursimplejoys.com by Ruby Bayan with the title of "Ride The Wind Of Change!". This to let you know that sometimes we have to go where the wind blows...

Ride The Winds Of Change!

Everyday we find ourselves standing at the doorstep, looking out to the world, asking, "Should I go or should I stay?" For most of us, deciding to move to another job is a Herculean task that keeps us awake pondering, "What am I getting into?" To many, even as we hear the loudspeakers fill the church with the hymn of the wedding march we still ask, "Am I ready for this major change in my life?" And I know, sometime within the next 24 hours, you will pause and ask yourself, "Do I really want to do this?"

The foundation of the circle of life is change. As certain as death and the passing of time: change. We can either fret and fight it because it gives us sleepless nights of anxiety, or accept its eventuality and ride it because it can be put to our best advantage.

We can learn to accept change by answering a few basic questions:

  • What are the reasons for the change? Who or what is causing it? Why is it important? Change is often prompted by social factors. Getting engaged or married comes from a deep desire to share a life of love and partnership. Changing careers is usually motivated by wanting to improve income or gain prestige. Buying a new house becomes a must for the growing family. A simple change of hairstyle or wardrobe sometimes stems from an inner need to boost self-esteem. Whatever the need for change that faces you at the moment, understand the reasons and why they are important.
  • What are the things I cannot be sure about right now? Can I do something about them now? If your answers are vague, confused, or simply "I don't know", then you're OK. As certain as change is in this existence, so is the uncertainty that goes with it. Right? Change is accompanied by uncertainty. And everyone is uncomfortable with uncertainty. But not knowing if your fiance' will eventually hurt you should not stop you from loving him and walking down the aisle with him. Because no one can ever be sure. To accept the discomfort of facing the unknown as part of change is one major step in accepting change.
  • What are the advantages? What will I gain? And what are the disadvantages? What will I lose? Now it's time to write down the answers. Yes. Write them down because as long as you do not see them numbered in front of you, they will all be jumbled and totally unmanageable and extremely stressful to deal with while they're all swimming in your head. Two columns: Advantages/Gain, Disadvantages/Lose. Be honest. Before you make the leap, try to know and understand, with all the available information, what you are really dealing with. This will definitely give you some peace of mind.

(article source: oursimplejoys.com - image sources: luckyoptimist.com)

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