Umbrella

I wonder whether there are more people who use umbrella when it is raining or when the sun shines too bright?
(image sources: jump-deviantart, in the rain-photobucket, b&w-flickr, forest-tumblr, rain-tumblr)

Follow the 90/10 rule

Now tell me, who doesn't know Stephen Covey? I am sure those of you who often read about self improvement and motivational books know who he is. He's the writer of the best-selling book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. Does that ring any bell? Click here to go to his official website.

So, I stumbled upon this blog (Forwarded Messages) and found this really inspiring article about 90/10 rule from Stephen Covey. It tells us about things that happened to us most of the time were created by ourselves. It's not really right to blame other people when things were not in our way. Why? Because it is our reaction that can have the biggest affect and impact about the whole situation. Read the description and the example below. It is so useful and believe me that it will bring you new insight to your life.

WHAT IS THIS PRINCIPLE?

10% of life is made up of what happens to you...

90% of life is decided by how you react.

WHAT THAT THIS MEAN?

We really have NO control over the 10% of what happens to us.

The 90% is different. YOU determine the 90%

HOW?
By your reaction

You cannot control a red light. However, you can control your reaction. Do not let people fool you. YOU can control how you react. Let's see this example:

You are having breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. YOU HAVE NO CONTROL over what has just happened. What happens next will be determined by HOW YOU REACT.

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You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your wife and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows.

You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish her breakfast and getting ready to go to school. She misses the bus.

Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles per hour in a 30 mph speed limit zone. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60.00 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye.

After arriving the office 20 minutes late, you realize your forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home. When you arrive home, you find a small wedge in your relationship with your wife and daughter.

Why?

Because of how you reacted in the morning.

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Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?

B) Did your daughter cause it?

C) Did the policeman cause it?

D) Did you cause it?

The answer is: D

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You had NO CONTROL over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day!

--- Here is what could have and should have happened ---

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say: "It's okay, honey, you just need to be more careful next time."

Grabbing a towel, you go upstairs and change your shirt. You grab your briefcase, and come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff.

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Notice the difference?

Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.

WHY?

Because of how you reacted.

You really have no control over 10% of what happens in your life. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

(source from here - creation image from flickr, coffee image from flickr, last image from here)

Motivate each moment..

I found this really good and encouraging site - Sentense.me. Here's how it explains about what it does:

"From Monday to Friday for all of we hard working people I have some motivating sentences which can maybe help you in making right decissions in these hot times. Which helps in Life, maybe in Love and brings a lot of daily Happiness. One per day. And what about weekends? Oh, come on! Let's go somewhere for trip, to dance or to meet friends and have some fun... You will know what to do :)"

Below are some of the works. I love it all.

Do what you Love or Love what you Do

Here's another little survey I've conducted on my Tumblr. This time, the question is:

Which one is more important:

Do what you Love or Love what you Do?

Here are the various answers from 89 people who answered it. If you're asking the question to me, I would surely say that it's better to do what you love. No doubt about it.Why? Because I think it's more important if you're able to follow your real passion in life. Therefore, you will do it without any pressure and for sure you will do it with all your heart. Here's what Confucius said about loving your job:

"Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life."

1. katherinem answered: hmm.. id have to say love what you do (:
2. glitzydrama answered: do what you love :)
3. borntosingforyou answered: do what you love, because then, you’ll always love what you do.
4. breakxbelladown answered: love what you do- content.
5. owlsummer answered: do what you love. but i think the most people must love what they do.
6. carouselhorses answered: i love. & i love what i do :)
7. fenrirsmuse answered: Love what you do
8. heathbeath answered: so hard. but i think to love what you do is a harder task sometimes, so putting your focus on that will probably be more beneficial.
9. vsebayang answered: do what you love
10. funsizeme answered: love what you do
11. hulaandmilo answered: Do what you love.
12. lovelybeach answered: there practically the same .but love what you do.
13. oohlahlahgirl answered: Love what you do, IMO
14. mylifeincoffeespoons answered: Do what you Love
15. lafilleduvoisin answered: do what you love.
16. samideas answered: do what you love.
17. ananieves answered: do what you love
18. heartcrumbs answered: Do what you love!
19. picmedaily answered: its just the same, in the end
20. ariongreta answered: neither…they are a hand in hand balance…trust me.
21. bringmeupmusic answered: Love what you do
22. lovealwaysj answered: Both
23. sydneykyle answered: they’re mutually inclusive… in order to love what you do, you have to be doing what you love
24. marysplayground answered: Do what you love while you love what you do.
25. maaeri answered: Do what you love
26. manoletlamina answered: Do what you love. :D
27. olgagon answered: same thing
28. zhafarina answered: do what you love, because then you can love what you do. :)
29. letsplaycharades answered: Love what you do :)
30. lunarzie answered: do what you love; it’s about making the choice
31. akopohsi-eyna answered: Love what you=)
32. mylene-or-myles answered: both
33. mischiefmanaged answered: There is no difference - both indicate a chance for happiness. :)
34. isabelroces answered: Do what you LOVE
35. chicaconojosdevenaditoasustado answered: do what you love in the other way is very conformist
36. noemib answered: its possible to do both
37. visualvivian answered: love what u do
38. welaughwesingwecry answered: both.
39. wasurenai answered: do what you love
40. adreamisawish answered: Love what you do
41. vomitingeyes answered: Do you what you love. But hopefully both.
42. queerdomredefined answered: do what you love
43. abbycresswell answered: do what you love
44. secretstoriesandlies answered: if you love what you do then you do what you love
45. sheripotter answered: Do what you love. It’s easier and true. Love what you do, can feel forced.
46. itellsecretstomyfood answered: love what i do
47. lars-z answered: Do what you love!
48. iamsorandom answered: love what you do. :|
49. livinglifeinspired answered: Do what you love
50. kate-kate-kate answered: Love what you do.
51. givestheworldherbest answered: love what you do (because it means you do what you love ) :D
52. pocketsofluv answered: both
53. munalunaa answered: DO WHAT I LOOOOOOOVE!
54. thefollowblog answered: love what you do
55. theconviction answered: Love What You Do =) because there will be times when life won’t look so bright =)
56. thedevilinme answered: you have to do what you love, that makes it love what you do right? haha. ano daw.
57. like-omg answered: it’s a circular thing. ;) but if you should want to exercise you freedom and be in proper control of your own life, then do what you love!
58. shafeyqa answered: love what you do
59. 8ternal answered: …view and follow ur tumblr accnt.. =)
60. dianna18 answered: Do what you love (:
61. raisedaliar answered: Do what you love.
62. christinakim answered: Love what you do. What you do is ultimately unimportant when compared to so many other things, like family and friends.
63. celiaful answered: Love what you do; as human beings, the only secret of being happy is being able to adapt.
64. drivewayromance answered: do what you love :)
65. flyingwolves answered: SAME FUCKING THING
66. elizabethmarie13 answered: Do what you love.
67. iliveforinsanity answered: DO WHAT YOU LOVE!
68. highwaistedjeans answered: do what you love.♥
69. crochetedcactus answered: if you do what you love then you WILL love what you do…
70. katehorkey answered: do what you love
71. cherrylicious answered: i think we start loving what u do and at some point we get to do what we really love.
72. elenagabrielle answered: do what you love
73. shankylove answered: do what you love!
74. hallowgen answered: i think,love what you do…
75. paperchain answered: If you do what you love, then don’t you love what you do? :O
76. ladystywalt answered: Love what you Do
77. wittnesslove answered: Do what you love
78. aixstar answered: Do what you love :D
79. caitybear answered: In my mind there’s not really a difference….you do what you love to love what you do (:
80. fallpole answered: If you are doing what you love,
81. romiantiwaras answered: do what you love! because sometimes, it’s harder to love what you do than do what you love
82. paloma-dove answered: i think they go hand in hand. if you do what you love, then you should love what you do. one initiates the other, right?
83. rockinvo8 answered: couldn’t they be one in the same?
84. ningostar answered: Do ONLY what you love
85. valeriepua answered: that’s hard. I pick Love what you do because if you love what you do you eventually do things that you love? if that makes sense
86. mydearlover answered: Love what you do.
87. frawees89 answered: Do what I love!
88. vee-smile answered: do what you love :)
89. linalina2013 answered: Do what you love and you’ll love what you do can u feel the love? ;) hahaha

(images by Craig Frodham and Michael Woolley via Sarah Kaye)