Friday, May 29, 2009

Mirrored Reflection of You

I will have a lunch meeting with my friends from the college where I did my master degree tomorrow. It's been almost 5 months ago since the last time we met. And week I will have a lunch with my other group of friends. Something came up in my mind regarding friends. How many close friends do you have? How many friends do you have? Are you the kind of someone who keep just a few close friends or are you the one who can consider everyone as a friend of yours? But that doesn't matter, what I'm thinking more is this idea hmm or an issue, yeah, issue might be more appropriate. OK, so here it goes, if you are friends with some people, the relationship exists because you like the personalities of that person or is it because the other person likes your personalities. Does it take two to tango? Does it take two to make a mutual relationship? One author (Valery Satterwhite) said that relationship is a mirror reflections of us. I can say that it's true. We tend to make friends with people who are more or less the same with us. That's logical. But how does it reflect our personalities? The author of the article below opens us the writing with a quote: "Each relationship you have with another person reflects the relationship you have with yourself." - Alice Deville. Read the article below to see the depth meaning of it.

You have a lot of personal and professional relationships in your life. Some relationships are loving, satisfying, uplifting, supportive and enrich your life experience. You love spending time with these people. They motivate and inspire you. Other relationships are tense, adversarial, problematic, strained, and exhausting. You don't like, or avoid, spending time with the people who drain the life energy right out of you..

The funny thing is that all of your relationships, good and bad, are a reflection of you!How can that be?It's very simple, really. You love the good relationships that you have because these people reflect what you like about yourself. They're kind, giving, nice, loyal, fun to be with, and all of the other attributes that you enjoy when you're involved in a good relationship.

You dislike the people you have difficulty with because they reflect the parts of you that you don't like. In these people you see something in them, however tiny or large, that you don't like about yourself. If they're needy, they remind you of the times when you have been needy. If they're rude, they're a reminder of the pain you caused others by your own rudeness. If they're annoying they bring out the annoyer in you. If they are liars, they remind you of the time you lied, how that felt and the damage that lie may have caused you or others.

Pay particular attention to the people who bother you, get under your skin, for no apparent reason. These people reflect something within you that you have been unwilling to see.

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