Friday, June 12, 2009

Become The "Real You"

How high is you confidence level? Are you the one who are not afraid to stand among the crowd? or are you the one who are afraid to show the real you? I personally not afraid of expressing the real me. And I am so lucky that those people who are close to me and who know me well, can accept me the way I am. So when I am around them, I am me.

Some people find it hard to express who they are. Some of them afraid that they won't blend to the rest of the group. I guess this is not a good perception. I think that whoever your friends are, they must be those friends who can accept you for who you are and thus, you can also show the real you. What will it be if you have group of friends but when you are with them, you become this naive person? Maybe the reason people are afraid to show who they are because of the expectations of other people toward them. Maybe for once or twice you are comfortable enough to become the person who are not the real you so people can accept you and you'll have a feeling of not being an outsider. But believe me, after a while you will be tired of it and you will feel that you live a faking live. I don't think it's the right way to live your life. I'm not judging people who are in this position but what I'm saying is that becoming who you are is important. And there are ways to go to that directions. Want to know the top 7 ways to becoming the real you? Read the points below so you can stop wearing the mask and be who you are.

Top 7 Steps

  1. Recognize the truth for what it really is.
    Be open enough to accept that other people may be right. Examine your own beliefs in the light of prejudice that might have been installed by your own upbringing.

  2. Learn by your mistakes.
    There cannot be any failures, there are only learning experiences. Feel blessed when things don't go right for you. You are being taught a valuable lesson.

  3. Be grateful for the experience.
    Everything you have done up to now has been leading you to this moment. It's up to you if you want to learn the lessons or to go around the cycle again!

  4. Study the lives of achievers.
    There are so many people who have woken up to the reality of their own existence and serve as a beacon of light to all who follow after. Study their lives...for it can act as a shortcut to your own awakening!

  5. Don't compare yourself with anyone else.
    You are a unique creation. There is and will forever be only one person like you! Therefore, although you can learn from others, it is important that you realize that you are special. Don't waste the gift given to you by following everyone else.

  6. Know the universe is on your side.
    The truth is that the universe acts a bit like a huge computer in the way that if you program negative things, negative things come out. However, if you put positive things in, you get positive things back. Ask and you shall receive, seek and you shall find, knock and the door will be opened unto you. Start asking the right question and you will get the correct answer!
  7. Don't get caught up in dogma.
    Try to walk away from potential conflicts, allow other people to have their own interpretations and don't get caught up in senseless argument. Imposing your point of view, even if you happen to be right, will suck you into a hopeless circle of recrimination. It's far better and more empowering to show by example than to attempt to change the minds of others by words!

“Who has confidence in himself will gain the confidence of others.”
Leib Lazarow

(source by By Malcolm Harvey from here-images via justbesplendid)


Anonymous said...

Of course another great post. Good things to remember Boya, definitely.

boya arsila said...

Thank you Dear...

Nazeeha said...

heyyy ..i really loved this post !! evrything u wrote is true to the core!! ..i should add it to my blog.. so my friends n othr people related to me see it !

boya arsila said...

Glad you like it=) Well, let's spread the words so eveyone will always be in their own confidence..