Let me ask you one simple question. What is confidence? Is it the way you trust yourself on doing what you do? Is it the way you are certain that you are doing the right thing no matter what people might think? While you still have time to think about your definition of confidence, later on we'll discover that confident is always related to self-confidence. Thus, we can say that self-confidence is having confidence in yourself. When we do things we are not sure that it is correct or not, it is very normal for human to have such thoughts. It is said that worries is human nature. But we're not gonna stress about the worry-feeling in here, but more into the feeling of being able to turn your confidence into a positive thoughts. Try not to mix your confidence with your arrogance. Because one might be arrogant is the confidence is way too high that one might not be able to respect what others think about what he/she is doing. having self confidence is the trigger which pulls off every positive aspect of life
Probably now you might think about what the relationship between self-confidence and self-esteem is? Closely related I believe. One stated that self esteem is not gained through positive thinking. Self esteem can be gained by setting goals and being able to achieve those goals. Here's a simple example. Say that you have to present a really important work presentation. Therefore, I believe that your goal here is to make the best presentation that will satisfy your co-workers and your boss. You keep in mind the goal and you strive your best to make the best possible presentation. By doing this, you have within you a self-confidence. But don't forget, you have to prepare first! Once the time has come for you to do the presentation, you convince yourself that you can do it and you can make yourself proud. This is a positive thought within you that can boost your self-confidence. So you came to the office, you did the presentation and you conquer the task. It's a success. You have made yourself proud and able to walk with your chin up. This is the other way of saying that your self-confidence shape your self-esteem. From then on, you have a self-esteem because you're able to achieve your goal. However, there's a possibility that you'd fail. And if you may fail, it is OK to feel sad (for only a short moment), but remember there's always a new day to begin again. Remember to try again tomorrow and to succeed! And if you fail enough times, you might want to re-evaluate the goals. Here's an article I've found regarding these two terms.
Deconstructing your esteem and confidence
Some of the elements contributing to whether you have low or high self-esteem are your conscience, guilt, and security. This means that it would be awfully challenging for you to have a good self-esteem if your conscience is nagging you that you are a person with distorted values.
As for self-confidence, a person may not fully depend his level of confidence on the abilities he has. He may find confidence in such external factors as power, money, and social status. A fine example of this is your confidence rooted in the fact that you are more financially challenged than most people you know.
It's all in the mind
“Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful.” — Mark Victor Hansen
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