Monday, April 6, 2009

Soul Mate

I've had one posting about soul mate before. You can have a look it here if you haven't read it. At my first posting, I discussed about different kinds of soul mates. Have you found your soul mate? A very short and simple question but it gets kind of hard to answer it. I wonder what will happen if you happen to meet your soul mate but you didn't realize that he/she was the one who is meant to be your soul mate? What if at that time you accidentally let the chance of finding your soul mate slips out of your sight? So, I came across this article about tracking down and finding your Soul Mate. Who knows someone out there needs to have this guidance just to be aware if the soul mate or the one is near and approaching. So when your soul mate-to-be is somewhere near you, you can feel it and soon will have your arms wrapped around your soul mate...and never be separated.

The first thing you have to do before finding your soul mate, is finding yourself. What qualities are important to you? What are your morals and beliefs? How do you show your affection and how do you expect it to be presented to you? These are questions necessary for you to ask yourself before going out there. Giving yourself an interview will make things clearer of what type of person you are really looking for, instead of just going on a blind search.

It is very common for a person to date people just for "dating". While dating is a fun and useful experience, it is not advisable to just go out with anyone just to have a date, or to enter a relationship because you do not want to be alone. When you go out on a date, it is important that you use that date as an opportunity to observe and see if the person is someone you would like to see again and if they carry the qualities you are looking for. If, for example, if you are searching for a person who is in touch with his or her romantic side, but go on a date with someone who likes acting rough at baseball games and loves hunting, then you could pretty much see where the relationship would go. You should be able to sense these qualities after a few dates.

Once you have realized that these dates will not lead to a relationship you have dreamed of, then obviously the person is not your dream mate either, and it would be best if you stop seeing each other to prevent any misleading expectations. Continuing to date someone just because you entered a comfort zone or do not want to hurt their feelings will only hold you back from meeting who you are really meant to be with, not to mention waste precious time for both you and your date�s. Gently break it to him or her that you find them to be a very interesting and nice person, but you feel like going solo for a while and then move on.

Tracking down your soul mate will require patience; so do not feel frustrated or hopeless if you do not find him or her in a certain amount of time. Good things take time to be brought together and you will come together when the time is right.

The time becomes right when you look out for the right signs. Such signs would be:

  1. Being strongly attracted to each other physically.
  2. Being strongly attracted to each other�s personalities.
  3. Having common interests.
  4. Sharing the same values.
  5. Major respect for one another.
  6. Someone who makes you feel truly special and worthy.
  7. Someone who puts in a great effort to show you their passion for you

"People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master..." — Elizabeth Gilbert (Eat, Pray, Love: One Woman's Search for Everything Across Italy, India and Indonesia)

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