Friday, March 20, 2009

Different Kinds of Soulmates

Let me begin this posting by asking "What is a soul mate"? It is stated that the origin of the idea of soul mates is from Greek Mythology. But if it can be explained in a simple explanation, soul mate can be defined as the connection feeling between two people regarding their life. I can say that soul mate has a shared life. The feeling between the two people is so strong and very deep despite age differences - can be older, younger, or same-age. Wikipedia defines soul mate as a term sometimes used to designate someone with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity, love, intimacy, sexuality, spirituality, and/or compatibility. A related concept is that of the twin flame or twin soul – which is thought to be the ultimate soul mate, the one and only other half of one's soul, for which all souls are driven to find and join. However, not everyone who uses these terms intends them to carry such mystical connotations. It also states that According to Greek mythology, humans were originally created with four arms, four legs, and a head with two faces. Fearing their powers, Zeus split them into two parts; condemning them to spend the rest of their lives in search of their other halves. Maybe this is why when people finally has met their soul-mate, it's like finding their other half. To complete each other and to become one. How lucky are those people who have been able to find their soul-mate. I am hoping that My boyfriend is my soul mate so we can always be together. Inseparable. Hopefully. All I have to do is just to listen and to follow my heart. However, if you want a deeper explanation about soul mate, I've few interesting articles that I've combined into one. You can read it below. Hopefuly you'll be able to recognize and find your soul mate.

The popular idea of a soulmate, I think, has too much predestination wrapped up into it. It implies that each person has a member of the opposite sex somewhere in the world (but, miraculously, almost always within a few miles of where they're living) with whom they share a spiritual psychic link that means they're cosmically intended to spend the rest of their lives making each other happy.

This is good for fairy tales and popular fiction, but it's a bad way to approach romance. It means that there's one and only one person anywhere on the planet that you can be happy with, which is silly. It means that you'll be eternally joyful together while you're alive, which is wrong. And it means that each person and their soulmate are linked in some ephemeral fashion that gives them a perfect and complete understanding of each other, which is ridiculous. I've never even heard of a longtime-married couple who thought that their relationship was an embodiment of perfect understanding and communication and happiness.

The reality is that true soulmates are made, not born. Couples come together because they have shared interests and goals in life, and they build up from there. Communication is practiced. Understanding is developed. And the joy of being with each other fades an grows, fades and grows with each day that the two people are together. There's an initial illusion of magic because, let's face it, it takes most people years to find just one person who shares even fifty percent of their interests. But that's just statistics, not spirituality.

The term "soulmate" can be very misunderstood. Yes, there are romantic "soulmates," but if we look at the true definition, we may find that many of our relationships include other endearing (soulmate) beings; whether they are members of our own family, romantic partners, friends or people we work with.

Karmic connections. A soulmate is a person whose soul has promised to connect with another soul in this lifetime for karmic reasons - to finish unfinished business or to accomplish a particular goal together. Furthermore, a soulmate experience isn't one that is guaranteed to be happy or joyful. As a matter of fact, these relationships can end up being sad and disheartening. However, if you allow your soulmate to play their role and accomplish the divine goal your souls have set out to accomplish, you may find that in the end, regardless of any frustration, disappointment and pain, you are all the wiser, stronger and more complete as a result of the relationship. Now, how's that for a return on an investment in your life's path?

More than one. If your bubble isn't burst yet, here's some further enlightenment. We're not limited to one soulmate. Your best friend of ten years or new friend of four months may be a soulmate to you. Your boss or your co-worker may be a soulmate. The lover who broke your heart so badly that you vowed to never love again - you guessed it - probably was a soulmate! The family member who is more of a best friend than a relative may be a soul connection.

Soulmate recognition. This pre-ordained relationship generally seems to have a "wealth or value" of its own, one which is very different from our other relationships. Those who are open to life's complete experience may actually recognize their soulmates while they are in this life. Others may understand the soulmate connection as they look back after the relationship has ended, or they may be revealed by a psychic or another sensitive being. The key to learning from our soulmates is to foster our personal relationships, nurturing those that nourish our own spirit while detaching from those that have proven to be toxic.

Meant to be. If we can just take to heart the idea that relationships of all kinds are opportunities for growth, we'd have a better perspective on the relationships we create, develop and nurture. Your soulmates, whether romantic or not, arrive in your sphere for a reason. Instead of focusing so much on love and the imaginary "happily ever after" try re-focusing on life, and the entire truth of its experience. Now that's a soul connection!

“A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life.” - Richard Bach

(source from & - images from justbesplendid)


Indra said...

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boya arsila said...

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Anonymous said...

I lost my soulmate tonight. I guess mine falls under the category of the ex that broke my heart. Actually I broke his heart but I will miss him dearly. I just wanted to be best friends now lovers. Guess I cant have just one side.

A.MEi said...

hey, its just a conincidence that i found your blog, nice one :)

nice to meet you, by the way.
Blog more, i will

boya arsila said...

I guess it's trus that it takes two to tango...

hey there..thank U..welcome to my blog=)

vivi said...

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