Monday, March 30, 2009

Walking towards the life you want

Have you been able to live the life you've been dreaming of? Have you feel sometimes you've tried too hard but don't seem to get the things you've wanted? You have always remember that those good things do not come to your life just like that. Those things come towards you because you're walking to get them. You give your best energy and effort to get the things that you've been wanted. Sometimes it's as easy as 1,2,3 and sometimes you have to walk through the rocky road. But in the end the journey will worth the effort if you can get the things you've been dreaming of. Always remember that we are doing our best, we deserve a better life or at least another chance to make it right. Here's the 'ho-to' list on walking towards the life you want.

Step one: Acceptance of present circumstances and reality
You cannot change what you do not acknowledge the pink elephant in the living room that everyone seems to want to ignore is going to squish you sooner or later. Standing in your truth is not about judgment or shame or guilt it is about creating an authentic life of depth verses a shallow life based on illusions and deception of self. Sometimes you have to admit you do not shave your legs in winter, have a tendency to pout when you do not get your own way and always do the opposite of what your Mother tells you to do.

Step two: Accept responsibility for words and actions.
It wasn?t me I didn?t do it may fly for a five year old not so much for a forty year old. If you did own it, learn from it grow and move on.

Step three: Commitment to understanding
Ask the big questions who am I? I am someone who likes fried chicken wings, sloppy movies and cute babies. Where did I come from? My God did I say that out loud I sound just like my Mother! What are my dreams, hopes, fears what is stopping me getting where I want to be?

Step four: Letting go of guilt, shame, pride and ego
Pride is the anchor that keeps you in your ego cut it loose. Guilt is the stick you carry with you to beat yourself up every now and then because you forgot about step number two. Shame on the other hand if the embarrassment of discovering you are human after all.
Step five: Building a foundation
Anything built on a shaky foundation isn?t going to last long. Pick four cornerstones for your base something like love, integrity or honesty, compassion maybe patience. Do an extreme make over of your belief system a spiritual renovation throwing out anything that no longer serves your highest good.


Step six: Finding the tools you need
Remember grasshopper what a carpenter builds with a hammer a teacher builds with words. It is not a good idea to borrow your neighbors? tools now is a time to invest in some new ones of your own. If you go dipping into Oprah?s toolbox chances are you will be building Oprah?s dream not yours. Try some different ones if they do not work try some more eventually you will find one that will do what you want it too!

Step seven: Emotional and Physical healing nurturing the body mind
The only way through it is just that to walk through it. You can bury your head in the sand all you like but that will simply mean someone will come along and kick you in the butt. But there is no need to be afraid of this journey because you now have the tools you need to heal to nurture no need for a quick fix.

Step eight: Inner peace and stillness nurturing the spirit
This comes when you accept who you are, where you are and what you have yet to do. It is that moment when the moment you are in need be nothing more than what it is.

Step nine: Awareness walking awake
Notice now you are wide awake noticing all life has to offer, the endless possibilities, the joy and blessings. No more sleep walking through this journey for you!

Step ten: Walking through life with grace, dignity and gratitude
I will not say the final step because we all tend to take two steps forwards and one step back on occasions. Grace is the inner beauty that shines as a guiding light for those coming behind to follow, dignity is living an authentic life standing in your truth and gratitude is acknowledging the blessings bestowed upon us the abundance in all its forms.

(source from selfgrowth.com - images from justbesplendid)

2 comments:

WELCOME TO MY WORLD said...

I love this. Good information. I'm in the process of getting my life back in order so I could start in the direction I want to be.

boya arsila said...

I'm glad that you like this article. I find it very useful too. Hope it will be useful to get your life back in order. xoxo