Monday, July 6, 2009

First impression...

Have you ever thought about how did you make your first impression to someone you've just met for the very first time? I always thought about that. But I'm pretty sure I can always make a good impression to new people. Well, at least I know I always give them my smiley face and try to be as polite as I can be, especially with older people=) I really think that first impression counts whether it is on the work interview, on meeting your lover's family, meeting new friends, meeting with important clients and so on. I guess it will worth the effort if you prepare well when you're about to meet someone for the very first time. Here are some tips to make a positive first impression...

  • The greatest way to make a positive first impression is to demonstrate immediately that the other person, not you, is the center of action and conversation. Illustrate that the spotlight is on you only, and you'll miss opportunities for friendships, jobs, love relationships, networking, and sales. Show that you are other-centered, and first-time acquaintances will be eager to see you again.
  • Closely related: You'll make a superb initial impression when you demonstrate good listening skills. Give positive verbal cues: "Hmmm... interesting!" "Tell me more, please." "What did you do next?" Just as actors benefit from prompts, your conversational partner will welcome your assistance in keeping the exchange going. Nonverbally, you show you're a skilled listener by maintaining steady eye contact. Remember how you respond to the social gadabout who appears to be looking over your shoulder for the next person he wants to corner. Remember, and avoid that habit.
  • Use the name of a new acquaintance frequently. "Judy, I like that suggestion." "Your vacation must have been exciting, Fred." You show that you have paid attention from the start, catching the name during the introduction. Equally as important, you'll make conversations more personal by including the listener's name several times.
  • Be careful with humor. Although a quip or two might serve as an icebreaker, stay away from sarcastic remarks that could backfire. Because you don't know a stranger's sensitivities, prolonged joking might establish barriers you can't overcome, either now or later.
  • Appearance counts. Several years ago, a professional colleague offered to meet me for lunch. I decided against wearing a suit, opting for a sport coat and tie. When he showed up in shorts and sandals, the message he conveyed was: "Bill, meeting you is a rather ordinary experience, and doesn't call for me to present a business-like appearance." Not surprisingly, that was the last time I met with him. True, standards for appropriate attire have changed drastically. Maybe the best advice I can share came from a participant in a seminar I conducted. She said, "I don't dress for the job I have now, I dress for the job I want to have."

(source from businessknowhow.com-images via justbesplendid.tumblr)

3 comments:

Michelle "Lady Bug" said...

Good tips Boya. I know I give off a terrible first impression for some people. Mostly people at work because lots of people at work say that they were afraid of me when they first met me. That I looked mean. haha.

boya arsila said...

Really..they said you look mean? I once being told by someone that I look mean first time they saw me but since then I try to make a very good first impression haha..I don;t want to get people to get me wrong with the mean look=)

Michelle "Lady Bug" said...

Well some people I want to get that impression but all and all, I am a nice person as long as you don't piss me off. As you can see by reading my blogs, especially the Trader Joes ones. haha